Law Office of Erin Farley

#Glass Fire: All Sonoma County Courthouses are closed to the public tomorrow and Wednesday, and only open for essential proceedings involving in-custody arraignments. 1.All protective orders that would expire on September 29,2020, or September 30, 2020, are extended to October 23,2020. 2. Ex parte applications for domestic violence restraining orders will be accepted through the civil clerk's office at the Hall of Justice located at Room 106J, 600 Administration Drive, Santa Rosa, CA 95403. 3. Juvenile delinquency detentions in Department24, and juvenile dependency detentions in Department 5, will be heard only by remote technology in their respective departments.

Separated Parents: Please read.

Grounding a kid for a month frequently makes things worse. As jailer, you both not only grow resentful, but with a sense of no parole, the kids figures out that... once in jail, it doesn't matter what else they do to annoy. More often than not though, the kid nibbles away at the parent and the month long grounding ends early actually leaving the kid feeling empowered for all they did wrong. In a way, they think they won. Not a very good way to address negative behavior to shape better behavior. In truth, rather than thinking about or escalating punishments, wonder about any disconnect between parent and child. Wonder about how facilitating the parent-child relationship may facilitate feeling good about each other. Kids who feel good about themselves and the connection with their parents tend to be better behaved and also tend to be more influenced by what a parent has to say. This doesn't mean not expressing disappointment or not having limits boundaries and expectations. This is about appreciating that the quality of the parent-child relationship is the platform for making all that work best.

Bias is everywhere. Recognizing your own is a great first step. Thank you, Mark Brian Baer.

We will be closed for Juneteenth.