Rooted in Love

Have you registered yet? Make sure to register by tonight for our Faith and Foster Care Conference! #restoration225 #sandiego #fosterfamilies #kinshipfamilies #kinshipcare #sandiegofamilies

Have you registered yet? Make sure to register by tonight for our Faith and Foster Care Conference! #restoration225 #sandiego #fosterfamilies #kinshipfamilies #kinshipcare #sandiegofamilies

Did you know that both you and your child have an attachment style? Here at ETC, we firmly believe that secure attachment is the foundation for growth, maturity..., and healthy relationships. It's also the basis for how we approach parenting. Getting to know your attachment style is the first step in moving towards earned secure attachment! #attachmentparenting #connectionbasedparenting #empoweredtoconnect #tbri #adultattachmentstyles

Did you know that both you and your child have an attachment style? Here at ETC, we firmly believe that secure attachment is the foundation for growth, maturity..., and healthy relationships. It's also the basis for how we approach parenting. Getting to know your attachment style is the first step in moving towards earned secure attachment! #attachmentparenting #connectionbasedparenting #empoweredtoconnect #tbri #adultattachmentstyles

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Save the date! We are so excited for next month! Check out the link in our bio for more information! #restoration225 #fostercare #kinshipcare #jasonweber #fostersandiego #sandiegofamily

Dear Mum and Dad, Please stick with me. I can’t think clearly right now because there is a rather substantial section of my prefrontal cortex missing. It’s a ...fairly important chunk, something having to do with rational thought. You see, it won’t be fully developed until I’m about 25. And from where I sit, 25 seems a long way off. But here's what i want my parents to know.. My brain is not yet fully developed It doesn’t matter that I’m smart; even a perfect score on my math test doesn’t insulate me from the normal developmental stages that we all go through. Judgement and intelligence are two completely distinct things. And, the same thing that makes my brain wonderfully flexible, creative and sponge-like also makes me impulsive. Not necessarily reckless or negligent but more impulsive than I will be later in life. Please stick with me. So when you look at me like I have ten heads after I’ve done something stupid or failed to do something smart, you’re not really helping. You adults respond to situations with your prefrontal cortex (rationally) but I am more inclined to respond with my amygdala (emotionally). And when you ask, What were you thinking? the answer is I wasn’t, at least not in the way you are. You can blame me, or you can blame mother nature, but either way, it is what it is. At this point in my life, I get that you love me, but my friends are my everything. Please understand that. Right now I choose my friends, but, don’t be fooled, I am watching you. Carefully. Please stick with me. ....... Here’s what you can do for me 1. Model adulting. I see all the behaviors that you are modeling and I hear all of the words you say. I may not listen but I do hear you. I seem impervious to your advice, like I’m wearing a Kevlar vest but your actions and words are penetrating. I promise. If you keep showing me the way, I will follow even if I detour many, many times before we reach our destination. 2. Let me figure things out for myself. If you allow me to experience the consequences of my own actions I will learn from them. Please give me a little bit of leash and let me know that I can figure things out for myself. The more I do, the more confidence and resilience I will develop. 3. Tell me about you. I want you to tell me all the stories of the crazy things you did as a teen, and what you learned from them. Then give me the space to do the same. 4. Help me with perspective. Keep reminding me of the big picture. I will roll my eyes at you and make all kinds of grunt-like sounds. I will let you know in no uncertain terms that you can’t possibly understand any of what I’m going through. But I’m listening. I really am. It’s hard for me to see anything beyond the weeds that I am currently mired in. Help me scan out and focus on the long view. Remind me that this moment will pass. 5. Keep me safe. Please remind me that drugs and driving don’t mix. Keep telling me that you will bail me out of any dangerous situation, no anger, no lectures, no questions asked. But also let me know over and over and over that you are there to listen, when I need you. 6. Be kind. I will learn kindness from you and if you are relentless in your kindness to me, someday I will imitate that behavior. Don’t ever mock me, please and don’t be cruel. Humor me-I think I know everything. You probably did as well at my age. Let it go. 7. Show interest in the things I enjoy. Some days I will choose to share my interests with you, and it will make me feel good if you validate those interests, by at least acting interested. One day when the haze of adolescence lifts, you will find a confident, strong, competent, kind adult where a surly teenager once stood. In the meantime, buckle in for the ride. and.. Please stick with me. Love, Your Teenager ..... By Helene Wingens https://grownandflown.com/letter-from-teen-to-parents/

Dear Mum and Dad, Please stick with me. I can’t think clearly right now because there is a rather substantial section of my prefrontal cortex missing. It’s a ...fairly important chunk, something having to do with rational thought. You see, it won’t be fully developed until I’m about 25. And from where I sit, 25 seems a long way off. But here's what i want my parents to know.. My brain is not yet fully developed It doesn’t matter that I’m smart; even a perfect score on my math test doesn’t insulate me from the normal developmental stages that we all go through. Judgement and intelligence are two completely distinct things. And, the same thing that makes my brain wonderfully flexible, creative and sponge-like also makes me impulsive. Not necessarily reckless or negligent but more impulsive than I will be later in life. Please stick with me. So when you look at me like I have ten heads after I’ve done something stupid or failed to do something smart, you’re not really helping. You adults respond to situations with your prefrontal cortex (rationally) but I am more inclined to respond with my amygdala (emotionally). And when you ask, What were you thinking? the answer is I wasn’t, at least not in the way you are. You can blame me, or you can blame mother nature, but either way, it is what it is. At this point in my life, I get that you love me, but my friends are my everything. Please understand that. Right now I choose my friends, but, don’t be fooled, I am watching you. Carefully. Please stick with me. ....... Here’s what you can do for me 1. Model adulting. I see all the behaviors that you are modeling and I hear all of the words you say. I may not listen but I do hear you. I seem impervious to your advice, like I’m wearing a Kevlar vest but your actions and words are penetrating. I promise. If you keep showing me the way, I will follow even if I detour many, many times before we reach our destination. 2. Let me figure things out for myself. If you allow me to experience the consequences of my own actions I will learn from them. Please give me a little bit of leash and let me know that I can figure things out for myself. The more I do, the more confidence and resilience I will develop. 3. Tell me about you. I want you to tell me all the stories of the crazy things you did as a teen, and what you learned from them. Then give me the space to do the same. 4. Help me with perspective. Keep reminding me of the big picture. I will roll my eyes at you and make all kinds of grunt-like sounds. I will let you know in no uncertain terms that you can’t possibly understand any of what I’m going through. But I’m listening. I really am. It’s hard for me to see anything beyond the weeds that I am currently mired in. Help me scan out and focus on the long view. Remind me that this moment will pass. 5. Keep me safe. Please remind me that drugs and driving don’t mix. Keep telling me that you will bail me out of any dangerous situation, no anger, no lectures, no questions asked. But also let me know over and over and over that you are there to listen, when I need you. 6. Be kind. I will learn kindness from you and if you are relentless in your kindness to me, someday I will imitate that behavior. Don’t ever mock me, please and don’t be cruel. Humor me-I think I know everything. You probably did as well at my age. Let it go. 7. Show interest in the things I enjoy. Some days I will choose to share my interests with you, and it will make me feel good if you validate those interests, by at least acting interested. One day when the haze of adolescence lifts, you will find a confident, strong, competent, kind adult where a surly teenager once stood. In the meantime, buckle in for the ride. and.. Please stick with me. Love, Your Teenager ..... By Helene Wingens https://grownandflown.com/letter-from-teen-to-parents/

De-escalation is not easy! It seems like everywhere we turn today people are now talking about it. The fact is it is hard! And the person trying to de-escalate ...needs to stay completely calm. I don't know who created this sheet but we love it and would give credit if we knew! #attachfamilies #adoption #fostercare #traumamama #radmom #RAD #advocate #educate #RaiseAwareness #developmentaltraumadisorder #DTD #ReactiveAttachmentDisorder #RAD #attachmentdisorders #propertreatmentNOW #attach #childrenfirst #biofeedback #attachmenttherapy #brainreorganization #Mightier @bemightier

A few of the RIL leadership is in the mountains, at a conference, so that we can better serve our San Diego families.

De-escalation is not easy! It seems like everywhere we turn today people are now talking about it. The fact is it is hard! And the person trying to de-escalate ...needs to stay completely calm. I don't know who created this sheet but we love it and would give credit if we knew! #attachfamilies #adoption #fostercare #traumamama #radmom #RAD #advocate #educate #RaiseAwareness #developmentaltraumadisorder #DTD #ReactiveAttachmentDisorder #RAD #attachmentdisorders #propertreatmentNOW #attach #childrenfirst #biofeedback #attachmenttherapy #brainreorganization #Mightier @bemightier

~ BEHAVIOUR IS COMMUNICATION ~ Dr Stuart Shanker: 'The key to changing a child's trajectory is to identify and reduce their stress load, rather than trying to t...each better self-control. The latter emerges naturally as a result of improved self-regulation.' 'When we treat stress behaviour as misbehaviour we can make things worse by increasing the child's stress load rather than finding out what the stressors are and reducing them.' Learn more in the slides that follow and via the free resources at: https://self-reg.ca/

A few of the RIL leadership is in the mountains, at a conference, so that we can better serve our San Diego families.

We are so excited our very own, Director of Ministry and Volunteer Outreach, Logan Mabe will be speaking at @hopeforsd ‘s 2021 Fundraiser- UPLIFT ! Be sure to s...ign up through their website and attend this amazing event! #fosteringsandiego #restoration225 #sandiegochurches #fosterfamilies #fostercare #fosteradopt #hopeforsd See more

~ BEHAVIOUR IS COMMUNICATION ~ Dr Stuart Shanker: 'The key to changing a child's trajectory is to identify and reduce their stress load, rather than trying to t...each better self-control. The latter emerges naturally as a result of improved self-regulation.' 'When we treat stress behaviour as misbehaviour we can make things worse by increasing the child's stress load rather than finding out what the stressors are and reducing them.' Learn more in the slides that follow and via the free resources at: https://self-reg.ca/

We are so excited that The Promise Race is officially a month away!!! Join our team today or donate now! We have the link posted in our Instagram bio! Need help... signing up? Check out our reels on Instagram!!! #fosteringsandiego #restoration225 #sandiegochurches #fosterfamilies #fostercare #fosteradopt #hopeforsd #thepromiserace #endthecycle See more

We are so excited our very own, Director of Ministry and Volunteer Outreach, Logan Mabe will be speaking at @hopeforsd ‘s 2021 Fundraiser- UPLIFT ! Be sure to s...ign up through their website and attend this amazing event! #fosteringsandiego #restoration225 #sandiegochurches #fosterfamilies #fostercare #fosteradopt #hopeforsd See more

We are so excited that The Promise Race is officially a month away!!! Join our team today or donate now! We have the link posted in our Instagram bio! Need help... signing up? Check out our reels on Instagram!!! #fosteringsandiego #restoration225 #sandiegochurches #fosterfamilies #fostercare #fosteradopt #hopeforsd #thepromiserace #endthecycle See more

De-escalation is not easy! It seems like everywhere we turn today people are now talking about it. The fact is it is hard! And the person trying to de-escalate ...needs to stay completely calm. I don't know who created this sheet but we love it and would give credit if we knew! #attachfamilies #adoption #fostercare #traumamama #radmom #RAD #advocate #educate #RaiseAwareness #developmentaltraumadisorder #DTD #ReactiveAttachmentDisorder #RAD #attachmentdisorders #propertreatmentNOW #attach #childrenfirst #biofeedback #attachmenttherapy #brainreorganization #Mightier @bemightier

A few of the RIL leadership is in the mountains, at a conference, so that we can better serve our San Diego families.

~ BEHAVIOUR IS COMMUNICATION ~ Dr Stuart Shanker: 'The key to changing a child's trajectory is to identify and reduce their stress load, rather than trying to t...each better self-control. The latter emerges naturally as a result of improved self-regulation.' 'When we treat stress behaviour as misbehaviour we can make things worse by increasing the child's stress load rather than finding out what the stressors are and reducing them.' Learn more in the slides that follow and via the free resources at: https://self-reg.ca/

We are so excited our very own, Director of Ministry and Volunteer Outreach, Logan Mabe will be speaking at @hopeforsd ‘s 2021 Fundraiser- UPLIFT ! Be sure to s...ign up through their website and attend this amazing event! #fosteringsandiego #restoration225 #sandiegochurches #fosterfamilies #fostercare #fosteradopt #hopeforsd See more

God says to call out to Him and make our requests known to Him. Whatever position you are in, you have the ability to bring your heart to God at any moment #fosteringsandiego #restoration225 #sandiegochurches #fosterfamilies #fostercare #fosteradopt #hopeforsd

This Giving Tuesday the founders of R225 have included a special gift for some of our donors this Christmas season. If you are looking for a way to give this Gi...ving Tuesday, consider our ministry supporting vulnerable children and the families that serve them http://restoration225.org/donation/ See more

I spent 1,149 days in foster care and I was never adopted. I entered foster care at the age of 15. My biological parents had their rights terminat...ed my senior year of high school. The permanency plan the state created for me was for me to age out of the system and be thrusted into the real world at the age of 18. If we want to discuss adoption from foster care, we need to talk about the kids that weren’t adopted. * 5% of kids adopted from foster care are between the ages or 15-18 * 20% become homeless the day they age out of the system * 60%-90% of victims rescued from human trafficking spent time in foster care The reality is that 23,000 youth will age out of foster care this year alone. I know personally how hard it is to navigate life after foster care and I don’t want other youth to age out of care and have this be their reality. When considering adoption, please keep these youth in mind. This is one of the many reasons why we do what we do here at Together We Rise. If this story touched you, please consider joining us tomorrow on Giving Tuesday. #FosterCare #FosterLove #TogetherWeRise #ThisIsFosterCare