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Many couples get caught in negative cycles of interaction. A negative cycle is a pattern of negative behaviors, thoughts and feelings that causes distress in the relationship. You react to your partner’s reactions and your partner reacts to your reactions and you both go back and forth creating a never ending negative rollercoaster. It can be exhausting emotionally and mentally, becoming so intense at times we begin to think our partner doesn’t even c...are, or we ask do they even love me? BUT there is hope! To begin the process of turning that negative cycle around try the exercise below to help you in the process. When my partner and I are not getting along: I often react by (describe behaviors)... My partner often reacts to me by (describe behaviors)... When my partner reacts this way, I often feel... When I feel this way I, see myself as.... When I feel this way I long for or need... When I react the way I do, I guess that my partner feels... Describe your repeating negative cycle (include how you and your partner trigger each other’s feelings, thoughts and behaviors)...

Often times when we face difficult or painful emotions we find ways to make it go away, only to have them pop up in unexpected ways or times. Think of a beach ball, if you push it under water what will happen when you let go? It pops back up! If we want to process and heal in healthy ways then we need to sit with it. What does it mean to sit with our emotions? Consider the following: Acknowledge what you’re feeling You don’t have to love it, but ...accept the current state of affairs Delay or avoid numbing all together Stop judging what arises, try making space for it If you feel brave enough try examining it Maybe allow it to be present without rushing it or making it go away . . . . . #therapywithalexis #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #latinxtherapy #chingonasgototherapy #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #healingjourney #latinxtherapist See more

For all my fellow mental health professionals, I SEE YOU . . To be a therapist and hold down space for our clients on any given day is an honor, but can also be challenging as we too are human. We are not exempt from pandemics, death, our own depression/anxiety, marital issues, financial stressors, etc. yet we battle on. We do the necessary work so we can continue to provide critical care for others. .... While we have left our offices and transitioned to online and maybe even phone sessions, we also struggle with the disconnect of being face to face and feeling the energy of our clients. For now we will look at a screen until we can get back to what we remember. For now we will be warriors for mental health and make it through for ourselves, our families and our clients. . Your work, your compassion for others, YOU are valued and seen Just a little reminder for those who need it. . . . . . #therapywithalexis #latinxtherapy #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthprofessionals #telehealththerapy #mentalhealththerapist See more

Healing emotional wounds can be tough. So tough we may chose to avoid them all together! Quite honestly it’s scary to face some of those difficult emotions but one thing we can be certain of is as long as we avoid, distract, and pivot from our hurts they will never cease to exist. Whether you have begun the healing process or currently battling here are some tips for dealing with emotional wounds that can support you on your journey. 1. Take your time. ...Allow yourself some grace and don’t believe it all has to get fixed at once! It’s a process. 2. Healing takes time and everyone’s journey will look different. Small changes will one day be seen as the major stepping stones that got you to a healthier place. 3. Be patient and consistent. 4. Be realistic about your goals and expectations. 5. View setbacks as part of the learning process. Refrain from judgement. 6. Show yourself compassion and love. 7. Be open to processing tough emotions from the past. 8. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You don’t have to do it alone. . . . . . #therapywithalexis #wellness #therapytiptuesday #emotionalhealth #healingjourney #doingthework #growthmindset See more