Stevon Lewis, LMFT

I'll just leave this here... . #accomplishments #undervalued #overvalued #worth #ability #selfpraise #selfperception #selfworth #realitycheck #begreat #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostorism #impostersyndrome #impostor #impact #typesofimpostors #naturalgenius #youreworthy #yourespecial #unicorn #different #special

There are 5 types of impostors. One of those types is the Perfectionist. Here's a great breakdown of the internal loop that perfectionists engage in. . It would be better to either set more realistic and achievable goals, or focus on what WAS accomplished, as opposed to what WASN'T accomplished. . Doing so will help temper negative feelings about yourself and your abilities. It will also aid in developing a more accurate perception of self.... . #innerbully #impostorsyndrome #innercritic #impostersyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostorism #selfconfidence #selfworth #selfesteem #selfassessment #selfperception #perspective #perfectionist #typesofimpostors #focusonthegood #selfpraise See more

This is the most succinct definition of Impostor Syndrome that I've seen. It is pretty much how I communicate what it is to individuals unfamiliar with the concept. . The most important piece being the inability to identify with their own accomplishments. I spend a good amount of time dismantling the belief that they aren't as good as they are. . I've found, that it is very difficult to refute objective information. That is, if you scored 40 points in a game, you scored 40 po...ints in a game. Unless you were playing against kids as an adult, or playing against people who have never played basketball before, you did what you did. . #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #impostor #impostorism #selfworth #selfesteem #selfconfidence #selfperception #selfassessment #believeinyourself #beliefinself #ability #talent #accomplishments #youaregood #youarenotafraud #psychotherapist #blackmaletherapist See more

A big part of how I do therapy includes the importance of focusing on our language. I've mentioned before how my fascination with language was shaped by Deborah Tannen. . What I find, in the work I do, is that people often make character assessments about themselves based off of the times they didn't perform their best. I don't think that is a fair way to assess what type of person you are. . I like science and would need more data points to be able to make a comprehensive s...tatement about someone's character, not one or two instances. I frame it by asking the question, "If I get into a car accident, meaning I run into the back of someone's car, does that make me a bad driver?" I believe I did something I didn't intend to do AND I also don't think I need to have my license taken away. . Be mindful of what information you're using to assess your self-worth. . #innerbully #wordsmatter #workinprogress #selfworth #selfesteem #selfassessment #wordshavepower #baddrivers #goodpeople #yougood #stopjudging #befair #mentalhealth #perspective See more

Showing empathy, especially in the current social climate, seems to be a difficult task for a lot of people. As a result, many fall short in their attempts to behave in an empathetic way towards others. . Here are two simple questions you can ask yourself as a litmus test. . 1. Would I be okay with being treated the way I am treating them?... . 2. Is this the way THEY want to be treated? . The goal is to be able to act in a way where you can answer YES to both questions. The idea is that when we show up for others it is done so in a way that we would be okay with if the roles were reversed AND that it is also the way the person you're showing up for wants you to show up for them. . #empathy #compassion #benice #dontbeadick #bebetter #showsupport #altruism #unconditionallove #unconditionalpositiveregard #empathetic #village #melaninmentalhealth #blackmindsmatter #justiceforbreonnataylor #empathyforblacklives See more

WHAT'S GOOD BRO! . We're back on Thursday, September 24, 2020 at 6pm PST/9pm EST. . We'll continue the honest conversations we've been having about being a Black man, and therapist, in the world and how we go about navigating that experience.... . Link in bio. . #whatsgood #whatsgoodbro #blackkingsneedtherapytoo #CheckOnYourstrongFriend #impostorsyndrome #blacktherapistsrock #blackmaletherapist #policebrutality #maskoff #anxiety #depression #mentalhealthawareness #menshealth #mentalhealth #melaninmentalhealth See more

People that struggle with Impostor Syndrome are really good at recognizing and acknowledging the value and worth in others, AND have a difficult time doing the same for themselves. . #impostorsyndrome #impostersyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostorism #selfworth #selfesteem #selfconfidence #selfperception #selfpraise #cheerleader #value #valueyourself #negativeselftalk

This speaks to the idea around performative versus substantive change. It is also relevant in our own behavior in response to life events. . Sometimes we engage in behavior to distract ourselves from the unpleasantness of an event, or to temporarily ease the negative emotions we experience because of event. It may look like substance abuse, acquiring things, avoiding people or places, focusing heavily on our appearance to create a facade that, "we're okay!" . None of these be...haviors serve to address the "hole". That is, whatever is causing the pain hasn't been dealt with and will continue to have impact whenever the picture is removed or askew. We don't have to live in our trauma, insecurities, impostorism, self-doubt, negative thoughts, and we also don't have to ignore them. Attending to, and understanding, our "holes" allows us the opportunity to patch them. . #innerbully #introspection #investinself #impostorsyndrome #impostersyndrome #impostorphenomenon #selfconfidence #selfdoubt #traumaresponses #homedepot #handyman #fixerupper #workinprogress #patchwork #begreat #movingforward #lettinggo See more

KNOW THE DIFFERENCE! . Also don't read this as hope isn't helpful. Some situations are beyond our control and all we can do is hope. . #hope #optimism #postivethinking #growthmindset #perspective #therapyworks #psychotherapist #lookingforward #keeppushing #dontquit #begreat

BREAD AISLE ANALOGY . The bread aisle analogy is simple. It says that you don't need to fear competition because there is enough space for everyone to exist. . I work with a lot of BIPOC entrepreneurs and I find that they often second guess themselves, or talk themselves out of moving forward, in a particular direction, because they fear an idea has been done and that they'll have difficulty being successful. I remind them of the BREAD AISLE ANALOGY and help them see that the...y have a place in the spaces they inhabit. . The inner bully uses this fear to keep us stuck in the places we've outgrown; preventing us from reaching our full potential. I say go be great and don't fear competition! . #innerbully #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #selfconfidence #selfdoubt #breadaisleanalogy #gohard #moveforward #blackmaletherapist #blacktherapistsrock #melaninmentalhealth #anxiety #depression #mentalhealthawareness #melaninmentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #investinself #competition #embracethejourney #getafterit See more

WHAT'S GOOD BRO?! . JUNE 4, 2020 @ 5pm - 7pm PST | 8pm - 10pm EST . Join us for an open dialogue about mental health, being a Black male, and everything that comes along with it.... . The goal being to normalize real conversations amongst men. . #blackmaletherapist #blacktherapistsrock #zoom #whatsgood #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #menshealth #menshealthmonth #psychotherapist #lmft #lcsw See more

This is an important concept to master. Don't hide your greatness under the assumption that doing so constitutes humility. . #begreat #humility #accomplishments #success #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #celebrateyourself #amazing #dopeaf

19 years ago today I joined the best Fraternity in the world. I completed that journey alongside two amazing men. Throughout these years we've remained close and have truly embodied the definition of brotherhood. While our process may have ended 19 years ago we still pledging through life together; and I wouldn't have it any other way. Lambda Beta Spring 2001 now and forever. RIP to our Dean. We love you sir and continue to work hard to make you proud. . #nupesdoitbetter #nupes #kappaalphapsi #lambdabetanupes #guillotinechapter #kapsi

Sometimes it's better to focus on your own path. Looking over at someone else's test can cause you to question the answers you have on yours. . The problem in questioning your answers is that you've given more credence to the idea that their answers are correct and convinced yourself that yours are probably incorrect. My suggestion would be to evaluate why they have a better chance than you at coming up with the correct answer, and look for tangible evidence to support that ...reasoning. . If you can't identify any tangible evidence then I'd suggest you roll with the answers you put down. More often than not your way is probably a good choice for you. . #innerbully #selfconfidence #selfworth #selfesteem #selfdoubt #anxiety #depression #confidence #confidencecoach #selfconfidence #confidenceexpert #youarenotafraud #fear #feelthefearanddoitanyway #selfsabotage #cultivatibgconfidence #successcoach #stopselfsabotage #overcomingimpostorsyndrome See more

Analogies really just flow out of me...! Hit @kevonstage with this. I love analogies because they make complex concepts easily understandable and relatable. . If someone needs it explained you're going to have to book a session . . #spades #cardgames #analogies #therapycanbefun #yougotthis #psychotherapist #blackmaletherapists #blacktherapistsrock #lmft

I'll just leave this here... . #innerbully #selfconfidence #minoritymentalhealth #blacktherapist #psychotherapist #selfworth #melaninmentalhealth #fashionabletherapist #selfesteem #impostorsyndrome #impostersyndrome #mentalhealthawareness #blackmaletherapist #blackfemaletherapist #selfdoubt #thoughtleaders #confidence #confidencecoach #selfconfidence #confidenceexpert #feelthefearanddoitanyway anddoitanyway #selfsabotage #cultivatibgconfidence #successcoach #stopselfsabotage #overcomingimpostorsyndrome #overcomingimpostersyndrome #mediacommentator

We are #SaferAtHome . The current state of our planet seems to be under duress. However, I am big on equity and reframing. Not that I want to ignore that bad things are happening; I do want to take time to acknowledge that there is still some good in the world. . Our mental health community has come together to remind you:... We are not stuck at home; we are safe at home You are not alone; we are all in this together We are going through a collective traumatic experience We are #AloneTogether It’s ok to feel happy & sad It’s ok to feel grateful & mad It’s ok to feel hopeful & anxious It’s ok to grieve It’s ok to feel peaceful It’s ok to feel ALL the feels It’s ok to want to feel accomplished during this time It’s ok to be unproductive during this time It’s ok to rest during this time It’s ok to take this one day at a time We are #StongerTogether, so be sure to check on your friends, your family, and your neighbors during this time. And don’t forget to check-in on you too! . If you are struggling during this challenging time please reach out for support! *If you are not feeling safe at home here’s some resources for you and/or your loved ones: *National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255 *National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 *Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-422-4453 *Adult Protective Services (for vulnerable and elder adults) 1-800-222-8000 . #saferathome #stayhome #staysafe #lmft #lcsw #blackmaletherapists #blackfemaletherapists #melaninmentalhealth #psychologist #psychotherapist #fashionabletherapist #grateful #gratitude #community #helpingothers