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There is no benefit to marrying rich unless your marriage lasts forever. But if your marriage ends the way 50% of first marriages do (in divorce), you deserve... to know how much you’re getting. It is presumptuous to think that the law will force someone to take care of you. After all, the law did nothing against them leaving you. Or cheating on you. Or gambling away all of your millions during the marriage. Whether you marry rich or poor, it is plain stupid to enter into a marriage without discussing financial expectations. 1 Valid prenups require full disclosure. Full Disclosures Will Give You Bargaining Power. Find out how much they have! What’s the point of marrying rich when you have no idea what rich is? 2 Negotiate Your Own Money During Marriage. I don’t think marrying rich is all it’s cracked up to be. Sure, it’s grand if you stay together forever. But sugar daddies leave or die, and marriages end. Read more https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/prenups-not-just-for-/

It's wedding season!!! Top reasons you need a prenup: 1 It's not your first rodeo.... 2 You own property PRIOR to marriage. 3 You are a creator of intellectual property. 4 You are a business owner. 5 You plan NOT to work during marriage. 6 You have children from a prior marriage. 7 One of you has a LOT OF DEBT. Read more https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/why-you-need-a-prenup/ #prenupsaregood #prenup #getaprenup

Happy Friday! A study published in the Proceedings of National Academy of Sciences suggests that there are as many as 27 different categories of emotions: Admir...ation, Adoration, Aesthetic appreciation, Amusement, Anxiety, Awe, Awkwardness, Boredom, Calmness, Confusion, Craving, Disgust, Empathetic pain, Entrancement, Envy, Excitement, Fear, Horror, Interest, Joy, Nostalgia, Romance, Sadness, Satisfaction, Sexual desire, Sympathy, Triumph. Humans have the capacity to feel a lot of different things, especially if they are going through crises such as divorce. They lean on me and I absorb. Thus, I have to be a rock and take good care of myself. Some good reminders! Detach. Turn it off. Breathe. Take a walk. Drink water. Be mindful. Slow down. Be excellent to each and party on, dudes! #beexcellenttoeachother #partyondudes #billandtedsexcellentadventure #emotions

Lifestyle clauses (including cheating clauses), along with custody and child support clauses, are typically unenforceable. That doesn’t stop people from puttin...g them in! Just don’t forget a severability clause! In case one clause is thrown out, the rest of the prenup will stay intact. https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/how-do-i-guarantee-my/ *Details have been altered to preserve confidentiality. #prenuptialagreements #cheatingclause #getitinwriting #validcontract

It’s not about father’s rights or mother’s rights! It’s about YOUR CHILD. Do you know their daily routine and how they feel about things? ... What about protecting them from immature behavior? If you could only see the emails I get every day, I want to DESTROY him I want to pay to get these kids, I don’t care what it takes. She is going DOWN. That is not the way it works in court. Accusations against each other will piss off the Judge. It may be novel to you, but the seasoned Judge has heard the other side is a cheating whore or deadbeat dad at least 10,000 times before 10 am. Impress the Judge by being gracious to your ex. Show the Judge that you have the children’s interests first. That their status quo will remain that they will continue to have frequent and continuing contact with both you and their other parent when this divorce is over. Think about this. If you do not wish to SHARE custody in their best interest, then STAY TOGETHER. Obviously you two cannot stay together, but your children did NOT make this choice. They did not ask to be born, and the worst thing you can do to a child is to take them away from the other parent. (Obviously there are exceptions to this rule if the other parent commits domestic violence, has a drug/alcohol addiction problem (not one you just made up for the divorce), etc). I hope you will not engage in bitter custody battles. https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/wise-custody-judges-a/ *Details have been altered to preserve confidentiality. #custodybattles #childrenfirst #familyisforever

There are three sides to every story: your side, my side, and the truth. And no one is lying. Memories shared serve each differently. Robert Evans It’s not... just he said, she said in family law. There is also the truth, which no one will ever know. Certainly not the Judge. Personal relationships are a funny thing. They’re private and impractical to litigate in Court. Love and hate don’t belong in Court. https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/there-are-always-thre/ #thetruthisstillthetruth #alieisstillalie #truthwillsetyoufree #familycourt

Going to court isn’t the only way to solve your problems. In fact, sometimes it’s the worst way: ineffective and expensive. Family law attorneys must provide p...erspective and solutions. Find a solutions-focused attorney, not one hell bent on revenge. Avoid these attorneys like the plague: 1. Those who advise filing false restraining orders; 2. Those who employ scorched earth tactics; 3. Those who repeatedly badmouth the other side or their attorney. Divorce is often portrayed as blood-drawing out nasty. It doesn’t have to be that way. You have choices. Choose an attorney who offers solutions, not creates more problems at your expense. https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/peacemaker-lawyers-fo/ #divorceattorney #solutionsnotproblems #familylaw

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35,000! THANK YOU! Last year when the world first shut down, my law practice did too. I was grateful for the respite, and in my free time, started making Tik T...oks. Some colleagues offered praise; others ridicule. I didn't have any plan or strategy. I never thought I would get any "followers". I'm just an old grumpy 20+ year divorce attorney. Making videos was therapy during a very depressing time. My work gives me a lot of purpose, and while my practice was closed, I found purpose in educating the general public about family law. Turns out, there is power in education! People started sharing things I taught them - they enjoyed learning from me! The difference between a potential client sitting in my office versus social media is that the person in my office already NEEDS the services of divorce/separation attorney. In many ways, it could be too late. Family law is best practiced prophylactically, not reactively. I much prefer education and prevention (such as marriage counseling, and prenuptial agreements) than litigating dangerous emotions. I don't know where this road leads, but I will keep on exploring. Thank you all for marching on with me. "You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great..." Zig Ziglar https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/ #gratefulforyou #thankyou #journeyofathousandamiles #divorceattorney #familylawattorney #purposedriven #lawyerkelly #purpose #purposedrivenlawyers

I have a little guest appearance on tomorrow night’s E! True Hollywood Story on Brad Pitt. Sunday 4/18/21 at 11 pm PST on E! Brad Pitt is one of my favorite actors. What a treat! #bradpitt #etruehollywoodstory #lawyerkelly

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This is my favorite photo of me and Scott. And probably the last intimate photo of the two of us, because along came 2 kids and we became 4. Truth is, when the... children come, you are so much closer than ever (you made people!), but the two of you will go through years of no sleep. Breastfeeding. Children co-sleeping. Miscarriages. Illnesses. Too much work. Never ending housework. Finances. Raising children. Caring for parents. Appendicitis. Stress at work from psychos. False accusations from evil. Children growing up. Perimenopause. In the midst of life, the two of you will grow together. Some will grow stronger. Some will grow apart. The truth is forever is NOT guaranteed because it takes TWO. You can never guarantee they feel the same, or know if you are growing closer or apart. One thing that’s helped our marriage is acceptance of routines. Prior to having kids, I HATED the ennui of the expected. (I suspect this is what we all suffer during COVID.) If you don’t love and accept routines, don’t get married and don’t have kids. You will fail. Blame it on the second law of Thermodynamics, the law of disorder. It says this: if you are left to your own devices, you will end up in disorder. That’s why my home is a complete mess 30 minutes after the maids leave. Why this blog contains many run-on sentences. And WHY MANY MARRIAGES FAIL. You MUST love the routines and fight against the law of disorder. Scott brings me coffee every morning. Even if he is mad at me. I love it so much and wouldn’t trade it for cars, mansions or diamonds. If your husband buys you all that, great. But does he bring you coffee every morning? What about you? What’s one thing you appreciate about the other person that you wouldn’t trade for the world? https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/marriage-advice-favor/ by Sonia Ortega #iloveyou #marriagetakestwo #forbetterorforworse #tilldeathdouspart

A perfectly enforceable prenup can still be challenged and dragged thru expensive litigation before being upheld. The surest way to avoid divorce is to stay ma...rried. I have been a divorce attorney for over 21 years!! I understand exactly why in the Bible, God hates divorce, and only in few circumstances should divorce be the solution. If you are headed this way, please do not discount marriage counseling. Pray. Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Choose your hard. #marriageishard #divorceishard #chooseyourhard #christiansanddivorce #marriageadvice

What do prenups, bulletproof vests, parachutes and condoms have in common?!! Sometimes they fail. Still better to use them if you don’t want to die or have a ba...by. People always request bulletproof prenups. Which is rather funny, because bullet -proof vests aren’t bullet proof. No, they are bullet-resistant. Bullets are DEADLY. And just because you are wearing a bulletproof vest, does not mean you won’t die from a gunshot wound. Just like no bulletproof vests are actually bulletproof, no prenup is actually guaranteed to be enforceable. In fact, I always advise my clients that ANY contract (including a prenup) can be set aside if either side challenges it. BUT, if properly done, your prenup can greatly strengthen your bargaining position in the event of a divorce. It’s better to wear a bulletproof vest than nothing. Tips to improve enforceability of prenup: 1 Learn the law in your state. Hire an attorney who is well versed in this area of law. 2 Follow the law to make sure its requirements are met. 3 Make certain both sides are represented by competent, independent counsel. 4 Some states have a waiting period. Leave sufficient time for this. 5 Hire an attorney prior to booking you venue! Reputable attorneys will not risk liability of a rushed prenup. The process takes time. (At least 6 months prior to wedding!) No one can ever guarantee the conduct of the other side. Sure, they can challenge it. But doing it right can strengthen your bargaining position, and will greatly decrease their chances of prevailing in court. https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/how-do-i-guarantee-my/ #prenuptialagreement #weddingplanning #marriageplanning

Divorce lawyers love Valentine’s Day!! Love isn’t flowers, chocolates or jewelry. Enjoy today single or as a couple. Don’t let expectations ruin a commercializ...ed day. These flowers are from my girlfriend Theresa Nguyen Warren, not my husband. #galentinesday #valentinesday #divorcelawyer

Prenuptial agreements (or prenups) are agreements you enter into with your fiance/fiancee PRIOR to the marriage about your rights and obligations during the mar...riage. You don’t know what will happen, but if it happens, you want to be prepared and know your rights. In a word, they’re anticipatory. Postnuptial agreements (or postnups) happen after you are already married. Something happened, and you realize the law isn’t so good for you. (Or maybe you rushed it and couldn’t get a prenup in time). In a word, they’re reactionary. In my experience, people want postnups for 3 reasons: 1. They forgot a prenup; 2. They’re heading towards divorce; 3. They’re trying to defraud creditors. Postnups are far more complicated than prenups and far more easily challenged bc the other side is now a spouse to whom you owe fiduciary duties. In my opinion, postnups are also far more insulting than prenups. We all enter into relationships with expectations. If you have a prenup entering the marriage, your actions will be different than if you did not. Marriage changes people. The roles they play vary depending on expectations. If you signed a prenup waiving alimony, mostly likely you would not quit your job during the marriage, because you would not be able to support yourself if the marriage ended. Let’s say you didn’t sign a prenup, and during the marriage, you give up your career to raise a family. If your husband decides after 12 years of marriage to give you a postnup waiving alimony, how would you feel? Insulted! Disgusted! This was never discussed! https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/prenups-are-better-th/ #prenuptialagreement #postnuptialagreement #creditors #prenups #prenuptialagreement #nevermarrywithoutaprenup #noprenupnomarriage #marriageisforever #divorceattorney #divorcelawyer #familylawattorney #dontgetmarriedwithoutprenup #prenuplawyer #prenupsprotect #separateproperty #communityproperty #getaprenup #howtoprotectproperty

I once had a case where the opposing party’s child support payments on ALL of his cases (several baby mamas) exceeded $100,000 per month. $100,000 after taxes!...!! I’m sure he feels the same way Halle Berry feels. His attorney should have done some problem-solving with him, like birth control or vasectomy. https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/practic/child-support/ #stopthedrip #snipit #childsupport #familylawattorney #divorceattorney #childsupportcalculator #guidelinechildsupport #dissomaster #TEDTalks

Reseda mother charged in deaths of her three children, ages 3,2, 6 months. Toughest interview I have ever done. #divorce #mentalhealth #custodybattle #familylaw #fox11news

Divorce and separation breed immature behavior. Many a client have called my office, enraged that their ex listed their new spouse as the point of contact at ...the kids’ school. They’ll always want to go to court and seek sole custody or get contempt. $$$$$$$$$$ Sigh. This is why divorces end up costing $100,000. Lawyers bill by the HOUR, whether it’s legal work or babysitting. (Your ex knows this, and wants to drive up your attorneys fees). Here’s my 2 cents: it’s super annoying and designed to get under your skin. So turn your other cheek. Call the school and add yourself back on. Same goes with your ex changing the locks on you. If you are on the lease or deed, take it to the locksmith and change it back. No need to call lawyers! Many divorce attorneys are burnt out and you can help them by doing a little problem solving on your own. https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/divorce-attorneys-suf/ #caregiverfatigue #problemsolving #problemsolvingskills #familylawattorney #divorceattorney

*Details have been altered to preserve confidentiality. It is natural for a parent to want to be involved in their child’s divorce. It’s a time of crisis. If m...y kid was going through a divorce, you better believe I’d want to be in the frontlines! That’s MY child. However, proceed cautiously. Your involvement could, amongst other things, erode attorney-client privilege. I always tell clients, once you have children with someone, it’s for life. As a parent whose child is going through divorce, you will fiercely fight for your child. But remember, at the heart of this is also the well-being of your grandchildren. Your child needs to know that you will always love them. But that doesn’t mean you need to take their side in the divorce. In fact, as a divorce attorney, I often see parents’ meddling with divorces tend to drag it out, and exacerbate dynamics between the parties. (i.e., Her DADDY is paying for the divorce, so she can just fight me on everything. There he goes, running to MOMMY again... You can sit on the sidelines, not the frontlines. https://www.purposedrivenlawyers.com/paying-for-your-child/ #attorneyclientprivilege #yourchildsdivorce #personalresponsibility #growingup

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