Tanya Gaum, MEd, MA, AMFT

Is that person really someone you want to support, praise, and validate? They’re hurting a lot of people... #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #coercivecontrol #domesticviolence #enddomesticviolence #systemicracism #endsystemicracism #endsystemicoppression #complextrauma #powerandcontrol #toxicrelationships #toxicmasculinity #vulnerability #heal #recover #recovery #thrive #radicalacceptance #grief #takebackyourlife #itsnotyourfault #believesurvivors #ibelieveyou #feelingscanbeart #feminismsaveslives #fuckthepatriarchy #andfucknarcissismto

It just kinda makes me go when therapists and coaches out there never talk about racism, homophobia, transphobia, heterosexism, ableism, and other issues related to Intersectionality when they talk about narcissistic abuse. Y’all know that racial gaslighting is a real thing, right? And y’all know that lots of folx out there are having to go along to get along in public spaces just to survive, right? #thepersonalispolitical Anyone with me on this? #narcissist #narcissis...m #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #coercivecontrol #domesticviolence #enddomesticviolence #systemicracism #endsystemicracism #endsystemicoppression #complextrauma #powerandcontrol #toxicrelationships #toxicmasculinity #vulnerability #heal #recover #recovery #thrive #radicalacceptance #grief #takebackyourlife #itsnotyourfault #believesurvivors #ibelieveyou #feelingscanbeart #feminismsaveslives #fuckthepatriarchy #andfucknarcissismto See more

Struggling to find the right words to say to a loved one who has broken their silence about being abused? Maybe this will help. Please share. And please believe and support survivors. #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #coercivecontrol #domesticviolence #enddomesticviolence #complextrauma #powerandcontrol #toxicrelationships #toxicmasculinity #vulnerability #heal #recover #recovery #thrive #radicalacceptance #grief #takebackyourlife #itsnotyourfault #believesurvivors #ibelieveyou #feministtherapy #feelingscanbeart #feminismsaveslives #fuckthepatriarchy #andfucknarcissismtoo

#stopasianhate #stopasianhatecrimes #narcissism #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #systemicoppression #endsystemicoppression #powerandcontrol #shame #grandiosity #entitlement #toxicmasculinity #radicalacceptance #grief #believesurvivors #feministtherapy #feminismsaveslives #fuckthepatriarchy #andfucknarcissismtoo

Y’all have SO much strength! #narcissist #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #gaslighting #coercivecontrol #domesticviolence #enddomesticviolence #complextrauma #powerandcontrol #toxicrelationships #toxicmasculinity #vulnerability #heal #recover #recovery #thrive #radicalacceptance #grief #takebackyourlife #itsnotyourfault #believesurvivors #ibelieveyou #therapy #feministtherapy #feelingscanbeart #feminismsaveslives #internationalwomensday #fuckthepatriarchy #andfucknarcissismtoo

Have a listen to this new playlist to accompany recovery from narcissistic abuse ~ curated for @doctorramani and for survivors everywhere. Let us know in the comments which songs have helped to heal and empower your heart and we’ll add them to the list!! #music #musicheals #feelingscanbeart #cycleofnarcissisticabuse #cycleofviolence #domesticviolence #narcissisticabuse #enddomesticviolence #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissist #sociopath #psychopath #triangulation #gaslighting #flyingmonkeys #lovebombing #projecting #emotionalabuse #powerandcontrol #coersivecontrol #consent #believesurvivors #ibelieveyou #heal #recovery #thrive #takebackyourlife #feminismsaveslives #wegotyou

GOT LUBE? Why NOT?! Join Nic Harbeck, LMFT @movinginwardtherapy and I LIVE this Friday at 8pm(PT) for a discussion on sex, shame, comfort, and consent! Bring your questions and we’ll see what we’re able to cover in 30 minutes! We’re imagining this will merely be a part one of an ongoing live series... #lube #sex #shame #comfort #consent #sexeducation #boundaries #pleasure #boundariesaresexy #consentissexy #knowyourbody #instagramlive

Thank you, @farzanadoctor , for popping this up on your socials! What an incredible support resource for survivors! Repost from @ccfwe Please share this widely with women in your network who might need it! The mental health cost of abuse and trauma are at a record high due to the pandemic. We know it’s tough, especially if you’re a woman. Know that you’re not alone. Join the virtual women’s support group. It’s free to register. Just email [email protected]. Topics will includ...e economic empowerment, mental health, trauma healing, financial literacy and more. Thank you @cityofottawa for all your support . . . . #blackhealing #bipoc #helpusrise #blm #firstnations #allyship #indigenouswomen #afroindigenous #indigenouslivesmatter #diversityandinclusion #gbv #believesurvivors #mentalhealth #traumahealing #endgbv #economicempowerment #womensrights #genderequality #womenempowerment #womensupportingwomen #generationequality #feminist #domesticabusesurvivor #feminism #womanism #socialjustice #intergenerationaltrauma #intersectionalfeminism #socialactivism #financialliteracy

For four years - my dear friend, Orna @ornatsa has been my LA person. Her home, my second home. Her children, my wise little teachers. Her light, my steadfast beacon. In a couple weeks, she’s off to plant new roots where she began, in Tel Aviv. A world away Thank you, Orna, for being my family. Thank you for schlepping all the way to mine, even when I only had short break in my schedule. Thank you for listening to me talk about narcissism all the time!! And thank you for being my rock through this wild chapter, and for letting me be yours. I’ll miss you terribly but I’m so happy you’ll be with your whole family and that they all get to have you back! Happy Hanukkah! Love you, motek #friendship #sisterfriends #family #love #light #courage #joy #grit #hannukah #seeyouinjune

I was recently quoted in this article on Emotional Flooding, written by Marissa Pomerance @marissajoyp for @thecandidly It’s always such a pleasure to answer Marissa’s amazing questions - she really cares about mental health issues so she does the deep dives with her questions to help us all better understand how we tick and how to perhaps tick a little better. You can access the article in @thecandidly ‘s bio. I hope you find it helpful! And thank you, Marissa, for writing such a great article on such an important issue that impacts all of us! #emotionalflooding #emotionalflashbacks #triggers #triggered #emotionalregulation #copingskills #mindfulness #communication #healthyrelationships #empathy #patience #selfsoothing #boundaries #marriage #marriagegoals #trauma #love #mentalhealth