Healyourcore at the Soul level with Mari Schurian

Calm is the cure What?! Do I have Metathesiophobia? Relax, it only means that you might have an irrational fear of change. What change do you fear the most right now? The change in your business/work/to be locked in/homeschooling?...Continue reading

Calm is the cure We have been diagnosed! Yes, the whole world has been diagnosed with a highly contagious virus. And we can see the effect of this trauma - this diagnostic shock trauma. According to Dr. Judith Swack, the biochemist under whom I have studied, all trauma has a structure. Based on her research, I came to the conclusion that the structure of trauma makes it a science in treatment and the individuals' life story, makes it an art in treatment. With that in mind, p...Continue reading

The Creating Healthy Boundaries workshop went splendid. Everyone's conclusion? "This is me and that is them." Evidence of clear and healthy boundaries.The Creating Healthy Boundaries workshop went splendid. Everyone's conclusion? "This is me and that is them." Evidence of clear and healthy boundaries.

Gentle Reminder #54: Are you love-phobic? Philophobia, a fear of love is a real thing. I see it in people's self-defeating behavioral patterns in romantic relationships. Apparently, it particularly afflicts women in their thirties and forties. They spend money on love-coaches, relationship experts and is waiting for an answer, a strategy to help them keep a partner. To initially attract a romantic partner is not the issue, the problem is to keep going and forming a meaningfu...l, lifelong relationship. That seems to be out of their reach. Fleeting romantic "nothings" became the norm and induced anxiety. So did a history of failed traumatic romantic relationships. Once there is a pattern, you might have a romantic history trauma and anything in your environment can trigger the trauma. So if you suddenly cause pointless arguments for no reason, or is suddenly convinced that he/she doesn't like you and is going to leave you, or cheat, etc., you might have a love phobia. As with any phobia, it is an irrational fear and it is almost impossible to talk yourself out of it. You can face the fear and hope it works out and that the other person will somehow read your conscious and subconscious mind and intuitively speak all your love languages and that all will be dandy. This can work, but it does take a lot of WORK and heartache. It can be made easier and you do not even have to go for couples therapy. You can do it all by yourself. Just have an attitude of "I will take full responsibility for the heartache in my love life, although it takes two to tango, and I am going to change my hurts". When you change, the other person has to and will change, because your thought patterns, reactions, and behaviours are changed. And the best part is that you don't have to focus on re-doing your old behaviours, it will happen organically because you no longer act out of fear. How? Once again, be curious and ask yourself how you see yourself in a romantic relationship. If it is a negative, disempowering image, change it with the technique described in Gentle Reminder # 50. If the image does not shift, you need a simple phobia treatment to overcome your phobia for love. If it still does not shift, then it goes deeper and you need a trauma treatment. These treatments are fast and effective and will save you years of therapy, and lots of time and money. #lovephobias #funkyphobias #biofieldpsychology #energypsychology #romantichistorytrauma #selfdefeatingbehaviors

Gentle Reminder #53: Seeing is believing So be aware and beware what you see in your subconscious mind. I am a BIG daydreamer, which can be an annoyance for more realistic people in my life. Since I can remember I always imagined myself in a different country. So much so that someone once said to me: "Mari, you are never here, you are always somewhere else", because I was always talking about other countries. I just wanted to travel. It is the main motivator for most thi...ngs in my life. I even gave up a leading role in a school play because I preferred to be one of the gypsies! A boyfriend of mine dreamt about living in a city, having a penthouse and lots of money. I found that totally unappealing and realized there and then he was not the man for me ever. Our minds and therefore futures will never collide. In Genesis 11 the people imagined that they could build a tower to heaven. Gen. 11: 6 "and now nothing they imagined they can do will be impossible for them". I continued to live the life I imagined and so did that boyfriend and so did the people in Genesis - until their tower became an idol and then it was the end of that. The point of the story is: Beware where your focus is, check in on your subconscious mind (look for the pictures in your mind), and your life will unfold into that which you have imagined because it is your reality and therefore you will organically take the appropriate actions to live that life. BUT, a big BUT, do NOT make those thoughts and dreams idols. Because if you do, your tower will never reach the heavens.

Gentle Reminder # 52: Be responsible. Not something many people like to hear nowadays. But I have to smile at the great new insights my clients have after treatments. I should actually create a "Dictionary of awareness" - how the meaning of words change after healing. ... I was treating a client who wanted to work on the lack of romantic love in her life. She ran a pattern which involved a protocol which is called an "I am lost overtangle". In this pattern, she felt confused and yes, lost. Neither did she want to take responsibility for her life or any life decisions. Before the healings, she had really negative associations with responsibility. She believed it was equal to prison in a dungeon and even death by smothering. So, of course, she will try to avoid being responsible. After the healings, she told me that now Responsibility = Responding to her Ability. She exhaled with an exclamation: "I am changing so much now!" Amazing! Love it! Guess who is going to be responsible for her life and love life?!

Gentle Reminder # 51 : Funky phobias = irrational existential fears Phobias of the future. Yes. It exists. Chronophobia is a persistent and often irrational fear of the future or the fear of passing time. ... Every day I speak to people who have anxiety, increased anxiety. Mainly about outside circumstances which they cannot control. They feel helpless, powerless, which creates anger, frustration, panic and overwhelm. Or when they "switch over", apathy. They cannot see their future timeline and when they do, it has some really scary visuals in it. None of these future visuals is true (yet) because as much as we want to believe that we can see the future, we cannot. These visuals create irrational fears where the individual already decided the future outcome of a situation will be something negative or even horrific. As much as they try to override the fears with positive affirmations, they actually add to the anxiety. Suppressing authentic emotions don’t make them go away. Recognizing, acknowledging and then releasing them with a mind-body technique will though. These irrational fears are phobias of the future. Chronophobia: Fear of the future makes people feel lost and unable to take responsibility. Responsibility = Responding to one's ability. Don't get lost in your fear. Respond to your ability, heal your funky phobia and serve the world with your amazing abilities. Feel free to call me for a funky phobia treatment and start living your life and live to your full ability! #funkyphobias #phobias #fearofthefuture #energypsychology #biofieldpsychology

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Gentle Reminder # 50: Don't be as a grasshopper, be as a gentle giant How we see ourselves (in our mind's eye) is how the majority of people see us. People who do not really know us or care to know us at a core level. Which is the majority of people we encounter. Most of the time we are unaware of these negative pictures of ourselves in our subconscious mind until we bring it forward to our conscious mind. And then we realize why we have been shrinking ourselves and just cann...ot reach our goals. One of the oldest examples of the power of the subconscious mind and how it can keep you from your destiny is when the Israelites refused to take possession of the land that God has prepared for them. Why? They saw themselves as small and weak and the opposition as huge and strong - they believed in their own minds that they were as grasshoppers before giants. "We seem to ourselves like grasshoppers, and so we seemed to them." - Numbers 13:33 - There it is. An example that is 1000's of years old. Others see us as we see ourselves. Even if they don't see us like that, they will act on that fear and insecurity. The giants didn’t really see the Israelites like that, but was simply empowered by their fear. How we see ourselves can make or break a situation. Know your worth, because we receive what we perceive to be our worth. How? It is easier than we think to access our subconscious mind - just have an attitude of curiosity. Put yourself in the situation you dislike/ have to do/ procrastinate on/ etc. and ask yourself how do you see yourself in that specific situation? You might see yourself as a small begging child or a little insect or wounded bird, etc. Trust what you see. It is after all just in your mind! Which by the way you can change. How to change your mind in 2 minutes? Put your palm on your forehead and focus on a color and a symbol of your choice (ex. an apple, dolphin, etc.) for 2 minutes. Focus only on that. It's harder than you think! Then take away your hand, drink some water and think about the unpleasant situation again and ask yourself who you are now. What do you look like now? Continue until you see yourself as strong and big. Victorious. Be a giant, a gentle giant. #energypsychology #biofieldpsychology #giantsandgrasshoppers #personalpower #fearless #believeinthyself

Gentle Reminder # 49: Have a purpose My mom used to say: "My child one needs a purpose, a reason to get up in the morning". Answer your calling. On February 20th, 2017 I read: "Dance to the beat of your own drum, to the rhythm of your individuality, and to the symphonic pulsating sounds of your unique destiny and purpose". ... I wrote Retreat next to it. A couple of months later I got a few "signs" and thought to combine my two deepest passions and hold a destination retreat in Tonga. (If you want to follow that beautiful journey - please go to my Untamed travel tales and retreat FB page) One of my deepest passions is to experience the world in its essence and beauty. Not in a shopping list kind of way, but to BE in the new place, to discover its people and customs. My other deepest passion and calling is to assist people to heal from their deepest, most complex traumas and anxieties. This is truly a calling which calls your name until you answer it. Have a purpose and discover your calling to follow your destiny. Listen to the promptings of your heart and dance to the rhythms of your own unique individuality. #destiny #purpose #purpose #travelandheal #destinationretreats #energypsychology