The Center for Relational Healing

The new episode of Helping Couples Heal with Marnie Breecker, LMFT, CSAT, CCPS and Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT-S is out! On this week's episode, we welcomed Dr. Rob Weiss for a fascinating conversation. We are so excited to share it with you! We would love to help as many people as possible with the Helping Couples Heal Podcast so please like, subscribe and review on Apple Podcast. Thank you! https://helpingcouplesheal.com/podcast/

The Center for Relational Healing (CRH) is so excited to announce this online betrayal trauma training! 10 CEUs available. Please reach out for more information or to register. Early registration fee available until June 5th. Stay safe, everyone!

From the dehumanizing language and policy of this administration, to the history of white women using the performative quiver of fear when calling the police ...on black men, to police brutality, the system is working exactly how it was designed. The system is not broken. This is the expansive and intricate system of dehumanization that was constructed to support white supremacy and slavery. Like every genocide in recorded history, racism started with dehumanization. The system is more complex now and supported by policy. One thing remains at the center: We, the white folks, are the conduit for the system. It was built to serve us. When we do nothing it surges through us. To end racism, we have to break the system. We have to see it and fight against it - we have to be anti-racist. There are many ways to break and rebuild. But here’s what I know for sure: The most important anti-racism work I’ve done over the past 20 years and that I’m still doing (every single day) is taught and led by people with the lived experience of racial oppression - NOT white people. This includes my professors, writers, activists, bosses, and mentors. For me, it’s also about seeing, sharing, and honoring the lived experiences of my friends whose realities are/were clearly different than mine. Our job is to seek out the teaching, value it, submit to the pain of learning without asking our teachers to absolve us or add our emotions to their load, and know that being held accountable is hard and painful. And we have to act. There are many teachers who are leading the way. Here are some teachers that I follow and who are doing critical work right now. Austin Channing Brown (the The Next Question) Dr. Bernice King (on MSNBC today at 1:45EST and has an important series on FB) Dr. Clint Smith (June 3 event) Prof. Ibram Kendi (on Unlocking Us this week) Rachel Cargle (Public address on revolution available now) If you know of other teachers - please leave them in the comments and we'll put together a list. Amplify their voices and their work. Buy their books. Take their classes. Break the system.

The next episode of #HelpingCouplesHeal is live! In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss why emotional attunement is a necessary component for relational healing and why the right words without a felt sense of compassion for what your partner is experiencing and feeling just isn’t enough. They also explore the role of empathy in emotional attunement and why compassionate empathy is crucial to healing partner and relational trauma. http://helpingcouplesheal.com/emotional-attunement-empathy/

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A wonderful resource for those who have betrayed their partner and want to help her/him heal. https://go.daringventuresathome.com/creatingsafespace

#MentalHealthAwarenessMonth

There are so many who must work in exposed environments. There are adults and children who are not safe at home. The complete disregard for others show...n by people who are actually safe and ABLE to stay at home but choosing to ignore or scoff at the guidelines is NOT rugged American individualism - it is entitlement, ignorance, and/or cruelty. We are successfully flattening the curve in many areas around the world. We can rise strong if we can stick together and STAY STRONG. We thank the people risking their lives for us by respecting the science and their requests to stay home if you can. - B. Brown See more

https://thriveglobal.com/stories/a-day-at-a-time/

Hi everyone! Hope you are staying safe and healthy! Here's my article published today by the Gottman Institute about how to manage conflict and connect better with your partner during the COVID-19 pandemic. Feel free to share.