Tess Brigham

"The new year often brings with it a clean slate and hopeful new goals. Here's how to actually get them done." Love this piece by Matthew F. Miller via @shondaland How to Challenge Yourself and Stick to Your Goals in 2021 https://ecs.page.link/dgGH1

We set very high goals for ourselves; we fail and then tell ourselves we are failures and that our particular goal is too hard. This is why changing your mindset is so vital. You have to believe that you have the ability to change, that you will fail at times, but you can learn from it and move on.

I loved chatting about emotional intelligencewith @ppanwar over at @authoritymagazine via @medium. Check it out here: Tess Brigham: Emotional Intelligence; What It Is, Why It Is So Essential, And How We Can Increase https://ecs.page.link/iN9zN

Are you starting to notice there are things in your life you’ve been tolerating that you’re not willing to tolerate any longer? Here's a tip inspired by the amazing Marie Kondo: https://ecs.page.link/GMWNE #MarieKondo #Therapist #MillennialTherapist

Any permanent change you want to make will always take time. Knowing this what keeps most of us going? Small victories. Charles Duhigg says, Small wins are exactly what they sound like, and are part of how keystone habits create widespread changes. Once a small win has been accomplished, forces are set in motion that favor another small win.

Have you been pedaling your desk-bike lately? Apparently, there's been a rise in working from home and Sydney Gore writes all about it over at @thegoodsbyvox (plus I'm one of the featured therapists talking all about what this all means). Check it out here: The rise of working out while working from home https://ecs.page.link/t9AZi

If you're struggling to disconnect from work and feeling the burnout, check out this excellent piece from Celeste Headlee and Clare Lombardo via NPR Why You Feel So Guilty When You're Not Working : Life Kit https://ecs.page.link/kSy2W

In today’s hectic and fast-paced work culture, burnout and depression are at an all-time high. While employees of all ages are affected, the stress is taking its greatest toll on Millennials and Gen Z. In fact, according to the World Health Organization, 50% of millennials and 75% of Gen Zers claimed they left a job for mental health reasons. Click here to learn the 5 main reasons why Millennials and Gen Zers are struggling: https://ecs.page.link/q3jZm #hrmanager #mentalhealth #millennialsintheworkplace #genzintheworkplace

If you can focus on less on being happy and more on creating meaning, you'll be able to get through and manage those tough times and when it's all over, the joy and relief will feel even better.

So typical right?! I’m 26 and having a quarter-life crisis! I hate my job but have no idea what I want to do with my life. I’m such a cliché. These words have probably been uttered by every single twenty-something that has walked through my door. Sometimes she is 28 and says work is meh and sometimes she is 23 and has worked incredibly hard to get a position at a top company only to find one year in, she is burned-out. Regardless of age or job, she always feels she is the... only person in the world that experiences the dreaded quarter-life career crisis. Well I’m here to say, Hi, my name is Tess and I too had a quarter-life career crisis. I’m here to tell you I survived and you will too. When I was 27 years old I worked for one of the top Talent Managers in the entertainment business. I worked with celebrity clients, I went to fancy parties and screening and I was on the verge of making it in Hollywood.From the outside looking in I seemed to have it all. But I was miserable. If you are struggling with your own quarter-life career crisis I am here to tell you two very important things: 1) You aren’t alone and; 2) This crisis may be one of the best things that could happen to you. That knot in your stomach, that feeling of dread you have when the alarm goes off every Monday morning is a good thing. This is how your body, your mind, your unconscious is trying to tell you to stop feeling afraid and to start doing what you need to do to get the life you want. So whether you are in the midst of an all out crisis or maybe just feeling like there is something else out there for me you can begin to explore how you view work, define for yourself what kind of career hits your sweet spot so you start to take action today to becomethe person you want to be. #findyourpath #therapistsofinstagram #confidencecoach #lifestrategist #lifecoach #millennialtherapist #genztherapist #careercoach #careerplan #careergoals #careerdevelopment #careerchange #careeradvice #careerplanning #careercounseling #quarterlifecrisis #quarterlifebreakthrough #quarterlifecrisisbegins

There will always be good things ahead if you are open to the possibilities. Stay open, stay focused...good things are coming around the corner.

If you're many of us, you've had to deal with many cancelled plans due to the COVID pandemic. It's so frustrating to start the year off with a set of goals and to watch all your plans slip away as 2020 drew on. So how do you deal with this level of disappointment? Watch this video for my top tips. And if you want more free tips and advice, check out my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCjI9IB39wZK2ZuowijDzCFQ

You were told if you studied hard, got into a good college, got a job, worked hard you would be happy. You did all the things andyou're not happy. Are you ready to do things a little differently? Are you ready to make lasting changes? I'm offering a course for young people who are looking for something more from life--more happiness, more clarity, more direction and who are ready to start taking steps towards finding your path. Get the course right here at a special discount for the month of October only! https://ecs.page.link/dThvf #FindYourPath

Have you been breadcrumbed? Read this awesome article by @Raven.Ishak (and featuring yours truly) in @hellogiggles to learn how to recognize manipulative dating tactics when you see them and how to take back control: What Is Breadcrumbing? Experts Explain How to Recognize This Manipulative Dating Tactic https://ecs.page.link/yDDyV

There are times throughout the year that stress hits us a little harder than other times. It can hit us during the holidays, birthdays, moving, elections, etc. And I know there are friends that will simply say to you, Don’t stress. They mean well, even if it’s frustrating to hear. But actually that’s not bad adviceI mean simply saying, don’t stress to someone who is freaking out is not the best delivery but the idea or meaning underneath is exactly what all of us need t...o do this month. I’m not denying there is a lot going on in today’s world. There clearly is. But what if you make the conscious choice and set an intention not to let it ALL get to you? What if you decided that this (move, holiday season, graduation, etc.) is going to be about what you want it to be about? Find more free tips at https://tessbrighamcoaching.com/blog/

"Here are some signs of a controlling parent, plus what to do if your parents' controlling behavior is negatively affecting you as an adult." Great piece from mindbodygreen! https://www.mindbodygreen.com//signs-of-controlling-parent

Are you looking to level up at work? Wondering how to gain your manager's trust and confidence. Building confidence and trust actually go hand in hand. Confidence is about you and how you feel about yourself--it's an internal feeling the you project outward. Watch this video to learn how to advance your career by focusing on what's within your control. Watch the full video here:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ljeJTfTck-E&feature=youtu.be

Take a deep breathit feels a little scary to shift your mindset and ask for what you want and need but it’s not as scary as you imagine.

Racking your brain for holiday gifts to give the younger people in your life this year? As a therapist who works primarily with millennials, one thing I've heard time and again from my clients since the start of the pandemic, is a longing for deeper and more meaningful relationships. Read my latest article in @CNBCMakeIt to find out the no. 1 gift I'm giving to the young adults in my life: Millennial therapist shares the No. 1 gift she's giving young people this year: 'It's simple yet profound' https://ecs.page.link/XF7Tc

When it comes to inspiring and motivating others, it’s not about what you tell them. It’s what you ask. So, what makes a great question? What types of questions can overcome resistance in an organization? What will spark a thought-provoking dialogue? Asking good questions is important because it elevates us beyond current thinking boundaries. As an employer, ask yourself: What am I hearing underneath the variety of opinions being expressed? What new connections am I making? T...he most effective leaders know how to stimulate curiosity and drive reflective conversation. Through brainstorming and collaboration, they fortify learning and increase thought diversity. Most importantly, they know how to use the right language and communication skills to generate broad engagement. Here are five tips to keep in mind during your next brainstorming session: https://ecs.page.link/v96xR #leadershipdevelopment #managementskills #humanresources

What are you committed to? How do you want to feel each day? And how are you going to get there? In this week's video, I'm sharing my top tips for putting yourself and your goals first. Watch the full video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QBSX5nkczFk&feature=youtu.be

Remember...no feeling is final. If you are feeling sad, frustrated or lonely, that feeling will morph and change. If a feeling won't go away then it is trying to tell you something. Why are you feeling lonely? Why are you frustrated? That emotion is telling you that something in your life needs to change. #LifeStrategist #LifeCoach #MillennaiTherapist

Want to know the #1 complaint I hear from millennials? Check out this article I wrote for @CNBCMakeIt: I've been a 'millennial therapist' for more than 5 yearsand this is their No. 1 complaint https://ecs.page.link/FevYn #MillennialTherapist #LifeStrategist #LifeCoach

Find another voice to listen to. Be compassionate with yourself and remember that change is never linear. It is messy and all over the place, but well worth the journey. #LifeStrategist #LifeCoach

We push boundaries all the time in life, but for some reason, the boundary people steer clear of is the one you should be testing most of all: the one at the edge of your comfort zone. Ever heard of the phrase "familiarity breeds contempt?" You cling to your comfort because it's a place that feels familiar, but true happiness, growth, and satisfaction with yourself and your life will never be found in the middle of the same old boring comfortable spot. They're all out there at the edges, just waiting for you to reach for them.