Sally LeBoy, Marriage Family Therapist

It is necessary, and even vital, to set standards for your life and the people you allow in it. ~ Mandy Hale https://deepsoulfullove.com/he-slept-with-me-and-now-want/

We all know that nobody will be perfect (including us!) and that nobody gets everything they want out of a relationship. So how do you know if you are giving up too much in order to make a relationship work? https://deepsoulfullove.com/is-he-worth-it/#sally

It’s somewhat paradoxical that no matter how much we think we want a relationship, when the opportunity is there, we often get cold feet. https://deepsoulfullove.com/i-like-him-but-im-scared-of-a/ #relationships #counseling #sandiego

Suggest telling him that you need him to initiate contact sometimes because when he doesn’t you wonder if he’s actually interested in you https://deepsoulfullove.com/he-doesnt-initiate-contact-bu/ #relationships #counseling

Think of it like food. If you are starving, you’ll eat anything. As you begin to feel sated, you get pickier. That’s how it is with men. https://deepsoulfullove.com/do-i-like-him-or-am-i-just-lo/ #relationships #SanDiego

Commit or leave? You need to ask yourself if your need for a commitment comes from a place of confidence and certainty about the quality of the relationship, or if it comes from anxiety that if you don’t get that commitment the relationship might fall apart. https://deepsoulfullove.com/how-to-tell-him-to-commit-or-/

We are individuals as well as partners and there are times in our individual lives when we are less available to the relationship. https://deepsoulfullove.com/is-he-losing-interest-or-am-i/ #relationships #counseling #marriagecoach

Asking somebody to make a change starts with personal ownership of the problem, rather than blame. https://deepsoulfullove.com/my-boyfriend-is-very-blunt/ #relationships #counseling

I’ve often counseled women to take it slowly before they become physically intimate. https://deepsoulfullove.com/he-stopped-texting-me-after-w/ #counseling #relationships

Most women would assume that when their partner says that he loves them, he is signing on for a committed and monogamous relationship. I don’t think that’s an unreasonable assumption. Probably in the majority of cases that would be the case. So, when he says he loves you but tells you he still wants to date other women, you might understandably be confused if not downright suspicious. https://deepsoulfullove.com/he-loves-me-but-wants-to-date/

Taking the relationship temperature really should start with you. How do you feel about the quality of the current relationship? Do you feel satisfied or does it feel off? If it feels off to you it could feel off to him too and it’s probably time for a conversation. If it’s off enough for you to be wondering if he’s breaking up with you, the conversation is long overdue.... https://deepsoulfullove.com/is-he-pulling-away-or-breakin/

You may need to seek the help of a therapist or if the spark was always missing, you may want to reconsider the relationship. https://deepsoulfullove.com/emotionally-compatible-but-no/

Respect and honesty are expectations that every woman should have as these are the foundations for any kind of relationship no matter the duration. https://deepsoulfullove.com/relationship-expectations/#sally

Almost everyone wants to be in a relationship. It’s a human need, and of course our species depends for survival on relationships. It takes two to tango! That being said, it’s not always possible to be in a relationship, so it’s important to be able to be alone and relatively happy for periods of time. https://deepsoulfullove.com/why-do-i-feel-like-i-need-to-/

I think women get in trouble because they are afraid that their expectations will scare off the partner. Of course, that can happen but if your expectations for the relationship are different, isn’t it better to know sooner rather than later? https://deepsoulfullove.com/relationship-expectations/#sally

You need to begin a process of training yourself to value relationships in a very different way, based not on your feelings but on your thoughts. https://deepsoulfullove.com/addicted-to-drama-in-relation/

You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging. ~ Brené Brown https://deepsoulfullove.com/how-to-overcome-the-push-pull/

You can’t undo the past; you can only go forward. I suggest that you have a conversation with the man to see if he would also like something more. https://deepsoulfullove.com/i-slept-with-him-too-soon-now/

Looking to talk to someone in this challenging time? I do phone consultations! I can help with any issues. https://deepsoulfullove.com/i-have-a-boyfriend-but-i-love/

I have often counseled women to wait to commit until the passions that come with falling in love dies down enough to be able to think and evaluate. You have to be able to see him for who he actually is to have a chance at creating a lasting relationship. https://deepsoulfullove.com/i-still-love-my-ex-but-dont-w/

Fighting should be about getting enough information to reach an agreed upon solution even if the solution involves a compromise or letting go of your position in favor of your partner’s position. https://deepsoulfullove.com/my-boyfriend-and-i-fight-abou/

Hello Everybody, It’s been about a week since mandatory shelter in place went into effect. I don’t know about you, but it feels like a year and there’s a long way to go! If you are feeling stressed, you are not alone. This is an unprecedented situation fraught with anxiety and we aren’t able to employ our usual means of stress reduction. Here are some tips that I hope will be helpful:...Continue reading

I always suggest that the first step (after you’ve taken a little break from the dating scene) is to examine your cheating ex to see if there were any signs that you either missed or didn’t want to look at. https://deepsoulfullove.com/my-ex-cheated-and-now-i-have-/

Want love? The first step is understanding your context for relationships and learning how to make conscious rather than reactive choices https://deepsoulfullove.com/how-to-stop-blocking-love/#sally

Any way you slice it, if you are trying to figure out a way to make somebody else feel, think or do something you are being manipulative. It doesn’t matter whether your intentions are benign or hostile; you have taken some kind of action, probably covertly, to change someone else. Manipulation is a game. There is no other way to define it. https://www.soulfulfillinglove.com/things-to-do-to-make-h/