Mindful Behavior Practices

So many of us have been programmed to please others, to put others before ourselves, to believe that if we do so we are good, loveable, worthy, polite, ...etc. But are we? Is this true? Does silencing or quieting our needs, desires, truths in order to allow for anothers to be in the forefront mean we are a good person, a polite person, an easy going person? When you silence your needs or desires in order to please another you are stating that they are more deserving than you. That they are more worthy of receiving than you. That they deserve to have their needs met before your own. Where does this behavior stem from? Many of us were taught that if we put others first, if we say yes even though we mean no, we will be loved, accepted and seen as worthy by another. Here is the problem: People pleasing teaches us that our worth, our love, our acceptance comes from another individual. It comes from an external source. Hers is the solution: Our worth, our love, our acceptance can ONLY come from an internal source, ourselves. It can only come from perhaps disappointing others in order to embrace our worth, our voice, our love found within us. If you find yourself in the people pleasing behavior ask yourself these 5 questions? 1) Am I doing this for me or for them? 2) Do I want to do this? 3) Am I doing this to be liked, seen, accepted, appreciated, loved? 4) Am I afraid of disappointing, not being liked, hurting someone? 5) What will happen if I put me first and spoke my truth, my desires? Practice saying no. Practice speaking your truth regardless of how it may be received. Practice firm boundaries. Practice observing why you do anything in your life. This is sovereignty. This is stepping out of the 3D matrix. This is honoring and loving you.

Letting go of the outer forms and labels, we can then transcend into courageous, connected co-creative beings ALL who matter! Let’s take a step into thinking, saying and doing what matters to make a better world for this and future generations

Dr. Hanley is a leading pioneer in the field of Applied Behavior Analysis. He has created a comprehensive program which is highly efficient and dignified. Check out his website and contact me for more information. Most of my work is centered around his approach. https://practicalfunctionalassessment.com/

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