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To everyone who identifies as trans: YOU ARE VALID AND LOVED! Trans men are men and trans women are women! Also, some trans people identify as non-binary, meaning that they don't identify as either male or female, but maybe somewhere in between or no where at all, and that's okay! To everyone else, it's okay to state your pronouns; I'm a cis-gendered man and my pronouns are he/him. Spread the love today and celebrate the diversity of gender identity and expression!

The therapy I offer isn't only for people who are just BEGINNING to Navigate the Coming Out Journey, but also for those who are CONTINUING to navigate it for the rest of their lives. Call me today!

Mondays are a great reminder of how important self-care is. Start your week off the right way by feeding your mind and soul with a good dose of self-care!

Hi everyone! Today I'm starting my very first "Fact or Fiction" post. There are so many misconceptions and stereotypes about the LGBTQ+ Community, and this one is by far the most common: That LGBTQ+ people look or act a certain way! A part of why it was so difficult for me to accept myself growing up is because I always told myself, "I'm not gay, because I don't ______" (fill in the blank with some stereotype). Well, like the post says, LGBTQ+ people are as diverse as any other community of people, and I think that's beautiful because we all have something unique to offer not just the community, but the world. If you're struggling to accept yourself because you feel like you don't "fit the mold", you're not alone. Let's talk about it!

I've always loved this quote from the book "The Perks of Being a Wallflower." It's not necessarily a bad thing, but it can be. How we were loved growing up by our parents, guardians, family members, etc., really affects how we view love, and in turn, love ourselves and allow ourselves to be loved. The thing about love and attachment styles, however, is that they are not stagnant, and can change over time. Even if you weren't loved growing up, or were loved in unhealthy ways, ...you can change that view and shape it into a new and healthier view of love, even if you've never experienced it before. It's tough work, but anything is possible. If you want to learn more about loving yourself in the way you truly deserve, please reach out. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) when working with clients, and changing our view of love by understanding how our early attachments have shaped our view of the world, and thus affect our relationships with ourselves and others today is one of the main goals of EFT. Contact me today and let's talk. See more

Having anxiety? Try this quick skill that has worked for me and many others. Start at the top, and work your way around the box going clockwise. Slowly inhale through your nose while counting to four, hold that breath for four seconds, then slowly exhale through your mouth while counting to four, then hold again for four seconds, and repeat as needed (for you visual learners, like me, refer to the diagram I made while doing this). I've found that doing this at least three times is the most effective, but you can repeat as many times and as often as needed. Please feel free to share with others. Anxiety is hard, but you got this! Feel free to reach out to me for further questions, especially if you need therapy.