Jinet Gharibian LMFT

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Why do some people get attracted to drama... Why are there individuals who actually like pain, why do some people feel uncomfortable with peaceful moments in their lives... I think two main reasons that were not spoken by many psychologists are 1-peace is not what they are familiar with and the unknown about that unfamiliar moment makes them feel uncomfortable, 2- pain releases painkiller chemical endorphins in brain and body which creates the good feeling a morphine can create in the body.

10% people over age 60 have depression, but worse than that is 20% people age 45, and 25% age 25, have depression. If this rate continues, then one in 2 people ...will have depression by age 60. That’s half the population. Depression is a serious disease, if we look at the brain of a depressed person with Xray, we’ll see that they have smaller frontal lobes and hippocampal volume. Their brain also produces less serotonin and dopamine which are the two important hormones for well being. (Jinet.Gh) See more

I was asked if its a good idea to live with someone before marrying him? I say, absolutely a great idea for every couple if they have that option and opportunity. Why spending so much money for a wedding, or going through the hassle of a divorce, if you can easily avoid getting into a wrong marriage. Believe me, 10 years of boyfriend-girlfriend relationship or even engaged but living separately, has nothing to do with how things get and how things change in a matter of a day,... when LIVING UNDER the SAME ROOF with that same person. And if a couple who follows Bible’s guidance about marriage, can go out on vacations and still control themselves not to have sex, then the same couple can live in the same house for a while and yet avoid having sex, sleep in different beds if that helps. If two people wanna have sex, they will have it no matter it’s daytime or night-time, it’s same house or different house, and if a couple decides to leave sex for after marriage, then they can control themselves no matter what, like they do in their vacation times, as I said, sleep in different beds if that helps xoxo See more

We can't be thankful if we are holding on to pain. We cannot really practice thankfulness if we don't forgive first. It's Thanksgiving Day tomorrow and I'm ho...ping not only will you be thankful for all you have, but you will also practice forgiveness towards all the wrongs that's been done to you. If you have hard time forgiving yourself or others, please be aware of some facts about Life and humans, may be that can help 1-Life is hard and difficult and Life has more PAIN than pleasure 2- everyone has issues, either with themselves or others or even both. 3) only 10% of the world is about RIGHT and WRONG, the 90% is all about the differences between people and their thoughts, beliefs and ideas and therefore actions. 4-WE make mistakes, OTHERS make mistakes, because we are all humans and ALL humans make mistakes. So try to even forgive your parents let alone strangers, I know when it comes to your parents or your closed friends or relatives , you have expectations but they are also humans, they also make mistakes. 5-By holding on to pain you will only be suffering not resolving anything. (Jinet.Gh) See more

Having a good and high self esteem, doesn’t mean we think of ourselves as perfect individuals, having high self esteem means, 1-being aware of our good qualities and abilities, acknowledging and appreciating them, while 2-admitting our weaknesses and flaws and trying our best to improve them, and 3-accepting the parts of ourselves that we dislike but are out of our control to change them. When working towards improving your self-esteem, before identifying what you actually li...ke or love about yourself, first begin to question all the things you don’t like about yourself. I know many therapists love to tell you LOVE yourself just the way You are, but were you actually able to do that merely by hearing it over and over again ?! I Wouldn’t say that to to a patient who has low self esteem and once I dig deep, I find GUILT and When I dig even deeper, I find out about their habit of lying which leads to Guilt which affects their self esteem. Lying>brings guilt =leads to low self love/esteem . Very simple and that’s only one example. Although Identifying our strengths and lovable parts are very important but frankly those by themselves don’t help many people to improve their self-esteem. It’s a long process, but in my opinion identifying and questioning what we don’t like about ourselves and examining the accuracy of those, and making improvements if needed, should be done first. And there will be PARTS of ourselves that we may not like but we need to accept them knowing they may never change, making peace with those parts will be necessary as well. Have a fabulous week ahead See more

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Ba bache bayad daaem harf zad, tozih dad Always explain everything to your children, just do ‘this & don’t do ‘that’ -cause I say so Is not enough... keep talking to them