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Mr. Marriage Counselor - "I Am Having An Affair" Cheating is arguably one of the most difficult things to deal with in a relationship. If you’re having an affair you cause feelings of hurt and betrayal not only for your partner, but within yourself as well. At Guy Stuff we see couples affected by cheating on a weekly basis. Almost always they’re on the verge of breaking-up because of it. But we also see partners who come to us saying, I’m having an affair and feeling torn u...p inside because they don’t know what to do about it. To find out more check out this article on our blog. #HavingAnAffair #CheatingSpouse #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0KK6Z00

7 Things To Do When You Say "My Wife Doesn't Love Me" It's common in counseling to hear wives say they don't feel loved by their husbands anymore. But believe it or not, husbands can feel unloved by their wives too. Although it can take some time when I'm counseling a man to get him to finally admit, "My wife doesn't love me." Not surprising, it's much more common for women to express relationship dissatisfaction than it is for men. In my experience counseling men, I've found... that many guys will go years and years feeling that their wife doesn't love them anymore, but never say anything about it. To learn more check out this article on our blog. #MarriageProblems #WifeDoesn'tLoveMe #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0KqXL10

Divorce Counseling For Men: "The Best Divorce Advice I Ever Got" No one gets married expecting to get divorced. But unfortunately, divorce happens all too often, and when it does getting the right divorce advice is crucial. A guy I worked with a few years ago returned to counseling last month. When Daren and I first started working together, he came to marriage counseling to help save his marriage. He ended up deciding to get a divorce and our work transitioned into divorce c...ounseling. If you need more divorce advice check out this article on our blog. #DivorceAdvice #DivorceHelp #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0K9Pfj0

What Strong Women Want Men To Know She has her own money, her own career, is confident, passionate, and never afraid to speak her mind. Not to mention she’s good at everything. All things you love, but also all things that can make loving her intimidating. Sound like your situation?... Loving a strong woman can be exciting and difficult at the same time. I mean she’d be fine without you, right? And you may even feel like she’s smarter than you, which can leave you worried that you’ll do something wrong, and she’ll happily move on. If you want to know what strong women want then check out this article I wrote on #DumbLittleMan #HowToLoveAWoman #WhatWomenWantFromYou #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0JY42l0

Asking Yourself, Am I Addicted to Porn? Here’s How To Know Very few men ever ask themselves Am I addicted to porn? Even in a counseling session discussing the ways porn is causing problems for them it’s extremely hard for men to link porn and addiction together, and then apply that concept to themselves. Most people believe there’s nothing wrong with porn. And since it’s harmless and normal for guys to watch you certainly can’t become addicted to it. Yet many men are addi...cted to porn and don’t even know it. Wondering if you're addicted to porn too? Check out this article on our blog. #AddictedToPorn #PornAddiction #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0JY3zb0

Mr. Marriage Counselor - "How Long Does Anger Management Take?" There are many misconceptions about counseling in general, and for anger management counseling specifically. People often either assume they can attend one or two sessions and be done, or that they’ll get roped into years of therapy. The reality is that neither of these things are usually true. When people are asking how long anger management takes, the answer depends on many factors. How long it takes to acquire... the skills for effective anger management is very personal. Nonetheless, there are some general guidelines when considering your options and time frames. Below you will see a question from Jenny, the wife of a man who needs help controlling his anger, and what I told her to expect. To learn more about anger management check out this article on our blog. #angermanagement #angerproblems #kurtstips https://hubs.ly/H0CCnkp0

Could you be in an abusive relationship? Do you know what to do if you are? Learn more about the signs of an abusive relationship and how to get help. #AbusuiveRelationship #RelationshipAbuse #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0Cw2QZ0

Depressed Men - Robin Williams Was Just One Of Millions Depressed Men? "Yes, Virginia there really is a Santa Clause (and depressed men)." And truthfully, there are a lot more of them than most people think. They can just be a little hard to spot. Men have long been conditioned to hide their emotions and any other thoughts that could be construed as weakness. This means that mental health problems like depression are often swept under the proverbial rug and never discussed. I...n fact, many men who are depressed may not even realize that’s what’s actually going on with them. They just know they’re unhappy, angry, or don’t feel right but of course they won’t talk about it. Do you need more information on depressed men? Check out this article on our blog. #DepressedMen #DepressionInMen #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0ClDc60

Why You Need To Grieve The Old Normal There is no denying that things have changed a great deal lately, and most will agree it’s not been for the better. Regardless of your opinion about the whys behind the changes, we’ve all been thrust into what’s being called a new normal. The unspoken consensus is that we need to carry on, keep moving forward, and try to stay as positive as possible. And, yes, we really do, but it’s also not that simple.... The many changes 2020 has brought about mean that most of us have had to make some abrupt alterations to the way we do things. Whether it’s school, work, worship, socializing, or shopping, almost nothing is the same. To read more about why you need to grieve the old normal check out this article I wrote on #DumbLittleMan #OldNormal #CovidDepression #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0yCnYr0

How Deceptive Sex Addiction Symptoms Can Really Be If you want to have sex all of the time that must be a sex addiction symptom, right? Not necessarily. After all, don't most men want sex all of the time, and certainly they can't all be addicts. Actually symptoms of sex addiction are more complicated than this and don't always have an obvious connection to sex. In order to better understand sex addiction symptoms, let's go back to the first article in this two-part series, Co...uld My Husband Be a Sex Addict? In it we looked at several men who could possibly be viewed as being sex addicts. Terrence, Mike and Steve all struggle with their sexual behavior in different ways. To read more about how deceptive sex addiction symptoms can be check out this article on our blog. #SexAddiction #SexAddictionAndPorn #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0yCtBF0

How To Fix The Lack Of Communication In A Relationship Communication in a relationship can be tough and fixing a lack of communication in a relationship can be even tougher. It doesn’t seem like it should be, but good communication skills take work to maintain and can get off track more easily than you realize. If you have heard of the butterfly effect then you may know what I mean. For those who are unfamiliar the premise is this: a butterfly flaps its wings in Brazil which ...starts a wind movement that eventually results in a Typhoon in Japan. Problems with communication can follow a very similar path something small that results in something big down the road - which makes knowing how to fix a lack of communication in a relationship crucial. To learn more about communication check out this article on our blog. #CommunicationInARelationship #FixingCommunication #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0C1Y-60

When Resentment In Your Marriage Is Overwhelming Resentment is one of the most challenging and destructive things a marriage can face. It’s sneaky and easy to ignore, and very, very hard to acknowledge once you realize it’s there. One of the worst parts about it is that resentment in your marriage can occur without either one of you knowingly doing anything wrong. When resentment builds in your marriage it’s difficult to handle for many reasons. One of the biggest, however, i...s that it often goes undiscussed. Often the partner feeling resentment won’t acknowledge these feelings or feels embarrassed that they’re feeling this way at all. So, years can go by with resentment in your marriage growing and silently eating away at your happiness and the health of your relationship. To read more about resentment in your marriage check out this article on our blog. #ResentmentInMarriage #ResentmentInRelationships #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0yrpcL0

Controlling Husbands Or Controlling Wives - Dangerous For Your Heart There have been many studies showing that marriage is good for you. The results find that being married can increase longevity, make you happier, and aid in mental stability. While these things are often true, we’ve probably all seen relationships where we wonder if the relationship is causing more harm to the partners involved than good. This is especially true if either the husband or wife is controlling. ...So, this begs the question, if one partner in the marriage is particularly controlling, is the marriage still good for your health? Want more information on how a controlling partner can affect you? Check out this article on our blog. #ControllingSpouse #AffectsOfAControllingPartner #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0BRFrG0

Will Empty Nest Syndrome Destroy Your Relationship? After all the many years of tending to your children’s needs, teaching them life skills, and doing your best to make sure they have what they need to be successful, it can be a big shock to your lifestyle and relationship when the last child leaves home permanently. You are now an empty nester. Some people welcome this new chapter in life and others dread it. Regardless of your feelings about it, there can be dramatic chan...ges once the children who have taken so much of their parent’s time and focus leave the home to start their own lives. Suddenly, married couples have their lives and relationships back to themselves, and many aren’t sure what to do next or how much they like it. To read more about how empty nest syndrome can impact your marriage check out this article I wrote on #TheGoodMenProject. #EmptyNestSyndrome #EmptyNestMarriage #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0yrSNK0

Mr. Marriage Counselor - "My Husband Has Erection Problems" Sex is a big part of most marriages. While it may occasionally take a backseat when there’s a lot going on, the connection sexual intimacy brings and reinforces is important to the health of a marriage. Which makes sexual dysfunction like erection problems an especially painful and difficult circumstance. At Guy Stuff we work with couples facing all kinds of challenges. And while we don’t address the medical issues t...hat can be associated with erection problems, we do help with the psychological factors as well as the emotional fallout that such problems can bring. In fact, many causes of erectile dysfunction can be better and more permanently addressed through counseling than through a pill. To read more about what to do if your husband has erection problems check out this article on our blog. #ErectileDysfunction #ErectileIssues #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0ymK_k0

3 Results Of A Verbally Abusive Relationship Most people think a verbally abusive relationship is easy to spot. After all, we all can see it when it's happening in someone else's relationship, but it's much more difficult to see in our own. Just like it's hard to recognize that we're in a verbally abusive relationship, it's also very hard to see the impact and result. Most often people have been in an abusive relationship for a long time and so it becomes normal. Also, the re...lationship doesn't typically start out being verbally abusive, nor does it suddenly become one overnight, rather it's almost always a gradual change that makes the behavior even harder to recognize. To read more about the results of a verbally abusive relationship check out this article on our blog. #verbalabuse #abusiverelationship #kurtstips https://hubs.ly/H0ybFlF0

Save My Marriage - Keep Fantasy Football From Stealing Your Marriage There are many things that cause stress in a marriage. Money, kids, scheduling conflicts are but a few. One that seems to often get overlooked, however, is football and it’s time consuming cousin, fantasy football. For many men Sunday (and Monday and now Thursday) football is a cherished pastime. As fantasy football leagues have become more and more popular, football season has become a not only a time suck,... but also a source of great tension in many marriages. To read more about how to balance fantasy football and your marriage check out this article on our blog. #FanbtasyFootball #FootballAndMarriage #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0y0c800

Counseling For Men: More Secrets To Men Getting More Sex A regular complaint I hear in counseling for men is that there isn't enough sex. This often comes from husbands, but not always. Another common complaint that comes up in marriage counseling is that the sharing of household chores is very unequal. Not surprisingly, this complaint usually comes from wives, but interestingly, from some husbands as well. As I mentioned last week in the post Counseling for Men: 3 Tips on Ho...w Other Men Get More Sex, research published in the Journal of Family Issues has shown that the more housework you do, the more sex you'll have with your spouse. Here are some interesting excerpts from the Wall Street Journal article Housework Pays Off Between the Sheets, which reviewed the findings: To read more about how some men are getting more sex check out this article on our blog. #SecretsForMoreSex #MenAndSexProblems #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0xSFNR0

Why Men Say I Don’t Love My Wife Hearing men say I don’t love my wife is nothing new for me. Not feeling in love anymore and not knowing what to do about it is one of the common reasons men come to Guy Stuff. Often by the time help is sought the problem has only gotten bigger because they did something out of not feeling in love, like cheating on their wife, and it has only caused even more problems. Since we all want to be loved, it shouldn’t be surprising that when we don...’t feel in love or loved by the one we’re with, most of us will go looking for love somewhere else. To read more about why a man might say he doesn't love his wife check out this article on our blog. #IDon'tLoveMyWife #HusbandDoesn'tLoveMe #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0xMldS0

Mr. Marriage Counselor - "I Plan To Quit Compulsive Sports Gambling" At Guy Stuff we work people suffering with many kinds of addictions. Most people immediately think of drug, alcohol, and even porn when the subject of addiction arises. But another, equally destructive type of addiction is gambling. Gambling whether it’s card sports, horse racing, or even something like Fantasy Football can cause big problems in people’s lives and relationships. It can be just as hard to qui...t as the others too. The constant pull of the big win makes quitting gambling a struggle for many people. One such person, Justin, sent us a question looking for help dealing with his sports gambling addiction. To read more about compulsive gambling check out this article on our blog. #GamblingProblem #CompulsiveGambling #KurtsTips https://hubs.ly/H0xBKgj0

My Wife Is Crazy - Or Is She? Find Out Everyone has occasional mood swings and displays of emotional behavior. But, have you ever found yourself in a situation where you think, "my wife is crazy?" I don't mean in the wild and fun way, but in the I'm-not-sure-she-should-handle-knives way. Erratic behavior can occur for a variety of reasons, but it is possible that your wife is experiencing something common to women, but not often discussed. Does your wife break down into tears... for no apparent reason, or has she suddenly developed panic attacks or a drastically shorter temper? Maybe she has developed anxiety that she cannot shake, or has nightmares more often than ever before. All these behaviors may have you thinking, "my wife crazy." You might start to believe your wife needs mental health help, but what she may actually need is a gynecologist. To read more about what might be making your wife crazy check out this article on our blog. #crazywife #marriageproblems #kurtstips https://hubs.ly/H0xsSn40

6 Fears About Fatherhood There are few changes in life that will rock your world as much as becoming a parent. And while some are excited beyond words at the prospect of having children, others are terrified. This can be especially true for men. For some men the idea of becoming a father brings about fears similar to walking a tightrope over the Grand Canyon without a net. Yes, parenting can be a scary idea for women too, but not always in quite the same ways. So why is it th...at having a child and starting a family can be so frightening for even the most fearless of men? Well, it turns out that there can be some very good reasons. To read more about the fears men have about fatherhood check out this article I wrote on #GoodMenProject. #fatherhood #fearsaboutbeingadad #kurtstips https://hubs.ly/H0xgHV00

He Doesn't Love Me, But Why? Have you ever thought your husband doesn't love you and wondered why? Maybe you’ve asked him, and he says he does, but you still don't feel it. Or maybe he says he's changed, or you've changed. Or maybe he just ignores you. So, you're left with the pain of feeling he doesn't love me. That feeling that he doesn’t love me is incredibly painful and confusing. And sadly, it’s not uncommon in long-term relationships. That doesn’t mean it’s okay or he...althy at all, but if you’re in a situation feeling that your husband no longer loves you, you’re not alone. To read more about why he may not love you anymore and what to do about it check ut this article on our blog. #outoflove #hedoesn'tloveme #kurtstips https://hubs.ly/H0xd7v20