Rachelle Jones, Level II Advanced GRM Specialist and DVBE

I hear this I get the gist of GRM often from those who’ve read our book. Or, occasionally from one who’s taken a class too . Either way my gut drops. Plain and simpleGRM is a set of actions that must be done in their entirety every time they’re used.... The actions as a whole are what is #evidencebased The knowledge of the actions (or some of them) are NOT evidence-based. If you want to recover your quality of life, you’ll need to DO what you’ve read or learned, and you’ll need to DO them with a living, hearing human. I have to do the same thing. It’s simply how GRM works. Don’t cut corners on a hope or whim unless you desire results that are...whimsical. #HeartbreakHacker #GriefCA

Do you love you? Love for self: willingness and acquiring the ability to make your own choices for yourself without the need for approval from others. So, do you love yourself?... #HeartbreakHacker #GriefCA

Be human with me. Humans make mistakes. I have all kinds of moments I wish I’d have said/done something differently or better.... Guess what? Each of those different or betters I can recall create an emotional response in my heart/chest/gut, which is called grief. So, I use the #GriefRecoveryMethod to help me move forward without all those tethers of regret and the hefty shoulda/wouldas that can steal my confidence and energy going forward. Do you have a case of the shoulda/wouldas? Want to set that weight down? #HeartbreakHacker #GriefCA

Have you ever experienced this? Caution do NOT say this to a grieving human. But, you might find they say it about themselves AFTER taking specific & correct actions to recover their quality of life after experiencing their wound.... Pain for me has become a beacon, beckoning me toward ittoward the discomfortbecause I’ve learned time and time again that once I effectively face it, I will enter into a new lightness...a birth. Ever noticed this? Want more of it? #HeartbreakHacker #GriefCA

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I want things to #feelgood. They frequently do not. When I realized that feeling good was gonna need to come from inside me first, my outside became a whole lot more pleasant, as it simply had been reflecting what I had on my inside.... We can change a lot of situations. That will provide temporary relief...until the next idea comes along. YOU will be a part of every external change you make. #FeelBetter for good when you learn the steps (16 of them!) to make internal change. #HeartbrearHacker

Emotional recovery classes benefit pre, during, and/or post relationship. How? 1) both partners learn to find tools they’re currently using that suck. 2) both partners learn new tools to use instead that do not suck. 3) both partners know how to hear and hold space for each other in a safe, loving way that promotes deep connection.... #HeartbreakHacker

Cry when it’s right for you. Don’t worry, you won’t cry to death. Trust your intuition when it nudges and ride into that sip of a normal, natural human release. #HeartbreakHacker

You’ve got all the reasons and they’re keeping you stuck. #HeartbreakHacker

Feel better Email [email protected] #HeartbreakHacker

Thinking about doing the Grief Recovery Method for the first time can be scary. We get it! Some people are afraid that recovery means that they would forget the person who died or is no longer in their lives. We promise that won’t happen.

Are you a helper by nature? Do you know how to protect yourself from from exhaustion or weariness? I jumped in and helped regularly. As a helper to my parents and a big sister I was trained to do so. Then as a nurse in the Air Force, the training was reinforced. I moved into parenthood and became a stay at home mom, so helper was again my job description. What I did NOT learn were things such as boundaries and how to help myself when I became weighed down or buried under th...e emotions and experiences of others. My cycle was handle it, handle it, handle it, handle it, handle it, crash and burn, pick myself up, then handle it, handle it, etc. It was a dizzying cycle that led me to facing suicide several times. This is it, folks! This #evidencebased practical Method is the step-by-step of getting unburied and staying fresh while in service to others in any capacity. Will you join me? Classes are ongoing and #lifechanging, or if you’re like me, #lifesaving #HeartbreakHacker

#RealLife club member over here. #HeartbreakHacker

I’m an ambivert, a mixture of both extrovert and introvert. When it’s time to connect with my deep and heavy feelings I need me and me aloneno noise, no needs, no distractions. I want to hear my thoughts and feel my feelings. I’m able to communicate and express easily AFTER I put in the focused effort of quiet discovery. There you are! Like a friend found, a flood of tears I knew needed permission to flow, rolled steadily down my cheeks.... How do you recharge, alone or with others? Would you call your recharge needs one of an extrovert, an introvert, or a unique combination of both? #HeartbreakHacker

Get over it Get through it Heal & Recover Through is usually code for falsities such as... Time heals Replace the loss Be strong Keep busy Grieve alone Don’t feel bad Test yourself: 1) get in a quiet space 2) close your eyes 3) pull up that old painful memory for 60 seconds 4) scan your bodydo you have physical sensations somewhere? No physical sensation = recovered. How’d you do? #HeartbreakHacker

Hopes unmet the way you thought they’d be leave you hurting. Tired of that feeling? It is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to feel differently. #HeartbreakHacker