Fertility Coach Sara Rector, MFT

I've brushed off another older blog post, this one talking about what I felt during my first holiday season without my mom. It's hard to hold onto the holiday s...pirit when you're grieving. Who are you missing this year? Would you like to share how you're honoring them? This will be my 3rd without my mom and I miss her so much. My wife (who sadly never got to meet her) surprised me on our first Christmas by baking my mom's Christmas cookies and now it's our little tradition of remembrance.

2693. Minimum. The number of thoughts I’ve had about my twins since I learned of my miscarriage that many days ago. They’d be 6.5 now. Boys? Girls? One of each?... I’ll never know. That doesn’t keep me from dreaming about braiding my daughter’s hair each day, or reading stories to my sons each night. I’ve found ways to remember them. Donating to children’s charities in their memory, creating artwork, talking about them when people ask if I have children. But there’s a silence in my life with the absence of their sweet voices. I wonder what they’d be into now if they were alive. What would they be scared of? Who would their friends be? Who would I be as their mom? I’ll never know the answers to these questions but I do know the love I’ll always have for them. Physically, they were with me for a short time, but their impact will last forever. #pregnancyandinfantlossawareness #miscarriage #miscarriagesupport #infertility #infertilityawareness #ReproductiveHealth #ttc #ttccommunity #blackwomenandinfertility #Womenshealth #angelmoms #angeldads #infantloss #breakingthesilence #breakthestigma

Do you recognize this picture? This image from Pixar’s UP is a scene likely missed by most of its child viewers, but ripped the hearts out of every mother and... father that has sat in a puddle of loss, a baby gone. It was every couple that faced infertility and the heartwrenching struggle to conceive. October is Infertility Awareness, Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month. 1 in 4 women suffer from the loss of their baby through pregnancy, delivery, or infancy. 1 in 8 couples will face infertility issues.There are likely SEVERAL women on your news feed who have suffered this loss or the inability to conceive. And you don’t know about it. (I know there were very few people we shared our journey with, at the time, while we quietly endured immense heartache) We must end the stigma around miscarriage and infertility. We must share our stories so that others may come forward to share theirs. It’s time to shatter the silence. When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them. I see you. I hear you. I am you. I love you. I am here to support you on your journey.

Which petals you taking today ?

Me: Hello God. God: Hello... Me: I'm falling apart. Can you put me back together? God: I'd rather not. Me: Why?... God: Because you're not a puzzle. Me: What about all the pieces of my life that fall to the ground? God: Leave them there for a while. They fell for a reason. Let them be there for a while and then decide if you need to get any of those pieces back. Me: You don't understand! I'm breaking up! God: No, you don't understand. You're transcending, evolving. What you feel are growing pains. You're getting rid of the things and people in your life that are holding you back. The pieces are not falling down. The pieces are putting in place. Relax. Take a deep breath and let those things you no longer need fall down. Stop clinging to pieces that are no longer for you. Let them fall. Let them go. Me: Once I start doing that, what will I have left? God: Only the best pieces of yours. Me: I'm afraid to change. God: I keep telling you: YOU'RE NOT CHANGING! YOU'RE BECOMING! Me: Becoming, Who? God: Becoming who I created you to be! A person of light, love, charity, hope, courage, joy, mercy, grace and compassion. I made you for so much more than those shallow pieces you decided to adorn yourself with and that you cling to with so much greed and fear. Let those things fall off you. I love you! Don't change! Become! Don't change! Become! Become who I want you to be, who I created. I'm gonna keep telling you this until you remember. Me: There goes another piece. God: Yes. Let it be like this. Me: So... I'm not broken? God: No, but you're breaking the darkness, like dawn. It's a new day. Become!! Become who you really are!!" Author John Roedel Jenny Spain ~ https://www.amazon.com//B07F/ref=dp_byline_cont_pop_book_1 See more