Elizabeth Perkins LMFT, Psychotherapy

I am really enjoying this podcast and book review about attachment. Maybe you will too. https://www.apparentlyparent.com/podcast

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Love this one .

https://elemental.medium.com/your-surge-capacity-is-deplete

It happens automatically. When as children we were neglected, deprived, or abused, we internalize it. We’d rather believe we are bad than our parents or caregiv...ers can’t properly care for us. As adults we may suffer a shame-based depression caused by invisible and overt traumas like neglect, deprivation, chronic misattunement, physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, or any other non-nurturing or subjectively toxic environment. Click on article below to read more on internalized shame and a path to healing: https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/its-not-always-depressio For a comprehensive, easy to read, and practical self-help book that shows step-by-step how to connect with emotions in safe and manageable ways, pick up a copy of It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect With Your Authentic Self (Random House & Penguin UK): https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Always-Depress//ref=sr_1_1 #abuse #neglect #children #aces #parenting #emotionalhealth #shame #shamebaseddepression #healing #recovery #emotion #education #trauma #traumainformed #traumahealing

Humans are wired for emotional connectedness. There is much to understand about the health problems caused by emotional neglect. In addition to the amazing grap...hic created by @lindsaybraman and the information in the graphic adapted from my podcast interview on The Mental Illness Happy Hour, here’s an excerpt from It’s Not Always Depression, Sometimes It’s Shame: During our initial sessions I developed a sense of what it was like to grow up in Brian’s home. Based on what he told me, I decided to treat him as a survivor of childhood neglect a form of trauma. Even when two parents live under the same roof and provide the basics of care like food, shelter and physical safety, as Brian’s parents had, the child can be neglected if the parents do not bond emotionally with him. This I suspected was the case with Brian. He told me that his parents were both preoccupied with the heavy burdens of a family that could barely make ends meet. While his mother never called herself an alcoholic, she drank to excess, and his father was often emotionally checked out as well. Brian had few memories of being held, comforted, played with or asked how we was doing. One innate response to this type of environment is for the child to develop chronic shame. He interprets his distress, which is caused by his emotional aloneness, as a personal flaw. He blames himself for what he is feeling and concludes that there must be something wrong with him. This all happens unconsciously. For the child, shaming himself is less terrifying than accepting that his caregivers can’t be counted on for comfort or connection. To understand Brian’s type of shame, it helps to know that there are basically two categories of emotions. There are core emotions, like anger, joy and sadness, which when experienced viscerally lead to a sense of relief and clarity (even if they are initially unpleasant). And there are inhibitory emotions, like shame, guilt and anxiety, which serve to block you from experiencing core emotions. To read the full article, visit LINK IN PROFILE ABOVE. #mentalhealth #emotions #depression #anxiety #emotionalhealth #recovery #thechangetriangle #healing #AEDP