Desired by God 2020

Physical Appearance Matters And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themse...lves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. For women who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good things they do. 1 Timothy 2:9-10 NLT See more

A Poem for Man and Woman Proverbs 31 is an acrostic poem. This is God’s truth, and it’s very skillfully written. The Hebrew word translated excellent is used 244 times in the Old Testament. Its basic meaning is strength. In fact, some have translated it as valor. Think about the strengths that are found in manhood, those strengths that may be physical in nature and turn into someone’s character. When used of a woman, the word communicates virtue. That is the excellent wife: a... woman who is strong, worthy, virtuous, and a crown to her husband. Interestingly, if I were to ask you, when you think about Proverbs 31 verses 10 to 31, do you think these verses are instructions for a man or woman? How would you categorize it? I think we all tend to categorize it as instructions for women. However, I believe this was written as instructions for a son and for a man. This speaks to men greatly. These instructions tell a man what kind of woman is excellent, virtuous, and desirable. This woman that is described in Proverbs 31 is the type of woman you should marry. My point is that this poem is not only for women, but for both man and woman. Men should read it as instructions to not only look for, but pray for. Then trust and wait on the Lord for her. Cont. Tomorrow

Finding the One Part 2 Go to your siblings who also know you well and ask them what they think of the person. Go to mature leaders of the church. But above all, look to the Lord. My wife was the second woman I ever dated, and I asked her to marry me on the second date. So, there you go, that’s the way to do it. Not! That’s not the way to do it. We’ve been married for 34 years and love each other with all of our hearts. We’re looking to God. Just like in raising children, we’r...e dependent on Him. Jackie and I were very young in the faith when we were dating. We didn’t know a lot. Do not knowingly violate His word. Take those principles you have set to heart and do not violate or compromise them. If you desire to marry a person and they’re in the Lord and their character is godly, you are free to marry them. In 1st Corinthians 7, Paul was talking about widows saying a widow can marry anyone she wants, but only in the Lord. That’s the standard. Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 7 NKjV Full Chapter

Singles Thought for today: Wait until God brings you that person. I waited patiently and he heard my cry. Stop picking and let him choose for you. But be open to know his voice and open to see if they bare the spiritual fruits of God. Amen.

Singles Series Courtship & Dating A frequently asked question is, How would you counsel concerning Christian courtship and dating? Whether it be a single man pursuing a woman or a single woman dating, I would advise you to never compromise what you believe, in order to have a relationship with a person. That’s one of the first things I would say. You need to measure any relationship you desire by the standards of Scripture. We learn in 1 Corinthians 7 that a believer can ...marry anyone they want, but only in the Lord. That is the standard--someone who knows Jesus Christ; that you have fellowship with them. What fellowship does Christ have with Satan or does a believer have with an unbeliever? So your standard from the beginning is: I’m not going to be with anyone who doesn’t know Jesus. Second, you need to understand what’s most important. This is true not only in dating but even in marriage. What is most important in a relationship is being with someone who loves God genuinely, so that they have the capacity to love you. In the same sort of way, you will love them out of your love for God. When my four kids were growing up, I told them I’m not really praying for someone to love you, although I obviously want them to love you, but I’m praying for you to find someone who loves the Lord genuinely and sincerely; because if they love God, they will love you, as long as they walk faithfully with Christ." Sometimes I think our young people get caught up on things that are secondary in nature instead of thinking what’s primary in nature: praying and hoping for someone who’s going to love God and can serve the Lord together with them. I’m not ruling out the idea that you find the person you’re going to marry attractive and that you have things in common with them. But it’s amazing how those things change over time anyway. You marry someone that you think is beautiful. Yet there’s no guarantee that our temporal beauty is going to remain. I’m thinking about 1st Peter 3 where a godly woman is taught to win her husband through her godly behavior and to set her attention on the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious in the sight of God. So even there, the woman is taught to set her attention on internal and spiritual beauty. Now if she’s to set her attention there, how about the guy who’s going to marry her? Is his attention there? Look for someone who’s beautiful in the Lord, who’s going to love Christ and love you. And don’t be so picky. Scriptures 1 Peter 3-7 NKJV , 1 Corinthians 7:39 and 2 Corinthians 6: 14-16.