Circle of Trust Family Therapy

As an immigrant (to ) I have noticed several differences growing up in a family-centered culture, and raising my own children in a culture that tends to encourage independence from the family. Despite the many differences, I have found a common theme; children (young or adult) want to belong to a family.Whether our behaviors and even feelings, at times, may say loudly that we don’t want to, our longings of belonging exist. Attachment is an extremely powerful force....In our relationships is our search and maintenance of proximity, closeness, and connection.This is how we are wired and when we ignore this, our relationships can struggle. Knowing AND feeling attachment is essential in a world where our instincts can easily be out of order.This is crucial in parenting! Young kids, are unable to navigate the world without guidance so they’ll reach out wanting to connect and belong in the unknown world.Teens can get easily lost in a world they are exploring, trying to understand, and their go to are peer-relationships (competing attachments). Remember that even though their bodies and voices have changed they still long to belong. Parents may do the best they can, but we can do everything we can (in any culture), and external forces will influence our children.This is to highlight the importance of knowing that our children want to belong to us.They yearn family connection.This is to highlight the importance of the attachment between parents and their children. Image by Olya Adamovich from Pixabay #dryamilkaurquizadoctoralwork #dryamilkaurquiza #johnbowlby #attachment #attachmentlonging #attachmentbonding #attachmenttheory #attachmentandrelationships #relationships #healthybonds #lifegoals #closeness #children #eft #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #emotionallyfocusedcouplestherapy #emotionallyfocusedfamilytherapy #families #couples #couplestherapy #couplestherapist #cubanosportelmuncho See more

Teen Talk Project meeting #4 is Monday, October 19th. I am so excited to continue working with teens to expand the way they see the world and relationships. As a mother of a teen myself, I’ve found so important to honor my relationship with her. My call is for parents out there to honor their relationships with theirs. ... As a culture, there appears to be the common theme for parents to reach out for support, wanting to learn skills to thrive as parents. This warms my heart! Yes, I get excited to see other parents like myself exploring how we can best support our children! My first go to question has to do with the basics, the relationship. It is easy for us as parents to be drawn away from our children by researching parenting skills or by our busy lives. It is just as easy for our children to be drawn away from us by the many things that compete with us. When things are not going well, my go to is to stop and notice relationship dynamics. Parenthood is a relationship and your teen needs to feel that you are safe, someone they can count on, more than they need consequences. What can you do to honor your relationship with your teen? Visit my website for details about this project. https://circleoftrustfamilytherapy.com Image by Greyerbaby/pixabay.com #teentalkproject #teen #teensmatter#relationships #mentalillness #mentalhealthawareness #october #mentalhealth #health #healthylifestyle #sandiego #sandiegotherapist #healthyliving #healthychoices #healthylifestyle #safespace #youth #covid #covid19 #pandemic #loneliness #soledad #salud #adolescentes #adolescents #undoaloneness #california #cubanosporelmundo #dryamilkaurquiza #honor See more

At times when threat is perceived, the partner with an avoidant-insecure attachment style will disengage to deactivate attachment need. This just means that the partner with the avoidant-insecure style withdraws, and or engages in tasks to avoid distress, and often to regulate fears of rejection and or abandonment. . Image by Amarpreet Singh from Pixabay . #dryamilkaurquizadoctoralwork... #dryamilkaurquiza #johnbowlby #attachment #attachmentlonging #attachmentbonding #attachmenttheory #attachmentandrelationships #relationships #healthybonds #lifegoals #closeness #eft #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #emotionallyfocusedcouplestherapy #emotionallyfocusedfamilytherapy #families #couples #couplestherapy #couplestherapist #sandiego #sandiegotherapist #cubanosporelmundo See more

A partner with an anxious-insecure attachment style exhibits a hyper-activation of the attachment system when threat is perceived. . Behaviors associated with the anxious-insecure style include pursuing, clinging, and aggression as the individual attempts to get a response from their loved one (attachment figure).In a romantic partners’ relationship, a partner may perceive this attempt to connect and regulate, as demands, criticism, and blame. . .... Image by Foundry Co from Pixabay . #dryamilkaurquizadoctoralwork #dryamilkaurquiza #johnbowlby #attachment #attachmentlonging #attachmentbonding #attachmenttheory #attachmentandrelationships #relationships #healthybonds #lifegoals #closeness #eft #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #emotionallyfocusedcouplestherapy #emotionallyfocusedfamilytherapy #families #couples #couplestherapy #couplestherapist #sandiego #sandiegotherapist #cubanosporelmundo See more

Children of caregivers that are (physically and emotionally) inaccessible and unresponsive when needed, develop anxious or avoidant strategies in order to regulate affect.It is from these strategies that insecure attachment styles develop and become deeply rooted and present not only in childhood, but also in adulthood. . These attachment styles are present in adult romantic relationships and activated during times of perceived relationship threat. . .... Credit where due: Bowlby, 1973; Mikulincer & Shaver, 2005 . Image by Pezibear from Pixabay . #dryamilkaurquizadoctoralwork #dryamilkaurquiza #johnbowlby #attachment #attachmentlonging #attachmentbonding #attachmenttheory #attachmentandrelationships #relationships #healthybonds #lifegoals #closeness #eft #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #emotionallyfocusedcouplestherapy #emotionallyfocusedfamilytherapy #families #couples #couplestherapy #couplestherapist #cubanosporelmundo See more