Amy Lacina, M.A., MFT

Posted @withregram @ariellederhytherapy When we know how to be with ourselves aka, know what we feel and know what to do with our feelings, then we use less defense mechanisms. Defenses can be helpful on occasion, but become destructive when we are so out of touch with our feelings. When energy from our emotions divert to defenses, there are many costs to our wellbeing. #psychstuff #defenses #wellness #emotioncoach #aedptherapy

Posted @withregram @drheidigreen We all get those gut feelings about people and situations from time to time. Sometimes, our gut gives us great information about something being unsafe or not right. Other times, our gut just gives us a signal that something feels similar to a past trauma. . Think of your intuition as a smoke detector. If the alarm goes off in your house, you don’t run out the front door screaming, Fire! Call 911!! Instead, you investigate. Maybe the house... is on fire, but maybe you just burned some toast. The smoke detector doesn’t know the difference. It’s up to you to figure out what’s really going on. . Your intuition works the same way. It says, Hey, this doesn’t feel right. Check it out. Your job is to investigate and decide if the situation is bad or if it just reminds you of something bad from your past. If you investigate and decide your gut sense is really a trauma trigger, try the following: . 1. Consult with your therapist or a trusted friend to get their opinion. 2. Ask yourself, How is this different than my past trauma? 3. Stay mindful and proceed with caution. Have an exit strategy. . What skills do you use to keep your gut reactions in check? . . . . #traumahealing #healingfromtrauma #traumarecovery #traumasurvivor #healingtrauma #healyourheart #healyoursoul #healyourlife #healyourself #healingenergy #ptsdrecovery #cptsdrecovery #ptsdawareness #cptsdawareness #childabuse #emotionalabuse #childabusesurvivor #mentalhealthwarriors #overcominganxiety #overcomingdepression #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #selfworth #recoveryisreal #verbalabuse #abusesurvivor #ptsd #cptsdawareness

Posted @withregram @gottmaninstitute How do you validate your partner's feelings during conflict? Validation doesn’t mean you agree, but that you can understand even a small part of your partner’s experience. It's about you both feeling understood and, ultimately, loved. Asking your loved one questions like Is there more to this for you? or "I'm listening, please tell me more," may help them uncover deeper meanings or other aspects of their experience that they hav...e yet to discuss. By seeking to understand, we can open the door to conversation and resolution. Discover communication and conflict resolution tools to boost your connection with Gottman Relationship Coach programs today. Link in bio. See more

Posted @withregram @nedratawwab Expectations set the tone for what's possible in a relationship. Good people are not perfect. Although people can help you heal, they cannot do the work for you. Sometimes our expectations of other people cause us to feel disappointed. People can be good, but they can’t be perfect. And they can’t do the internal work for you. ... Have you ever had unreasonable expectations of a partner? #nedranuggets

"I started to wonder if we might have to live separately, because he couldn’t seem to bear the fear of living with us," Nicole Comforto writes in Modern Love.

Posted @withregram @susandavid_phd We tend to think of courage as a big, heroic act, but often courage in its quiet and powerful is expressed in the conversation that we have with ourselves. Slow down and face into your difficult emotions with courage. What you find there will signpost to you how you can make better decisions and take values-based actions. Thank you to @amyleigh_thomson for the beautiful image.

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#trauma #therapy #gaslighting

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Rising rates of depression and anxiety in wealthy countries like the U.S. may be a result of our brains getting hooked on dopamine from digital pleasures like texting, tweeting and online shopping, writes psychiatrist and professor Anna Lembke.

Posted @withregram @nedratawwab Relationships can be salvaged and repaired when people are accountable and willing to change. Whether children are under 18 years old, or adults, they benefit from an apology, words of affirmation, and changed behavior. ... #nedranuggets See more