Sandi Knickerbocker, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Grief comes in all shapes, sizes, thoughts and feelings. Go easy on yourself.

One brave woman's story

New Resource for working Moms

There is loneliness and there is Aloneliness. Aloneliness is a result of COVID-19 and is what happens when you are cooped up for too long with people versus the loneliness that comes with isolation.

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Do you ever get angry and just sort of snap with no clue as to why? This video may help you understand. https://youtu.be/2diE_SuSQAw

Dialectical thinking is beautiful. You can honor who you are and what you have while needing a change, a timeout or a new goal

Food for Thought March 24 Action Ours is a program of Action. It does no good to develop new awareness if we do not take appropriate new actions. When we become aware of the damage done by compulsive overeating and realize that OA has the answer to our problem, we take action by going to meetings, making phone calls, and working the steps. We follow a food plan and abstain from eating compulsively.... Taking inventory, admitting our mistakes, and making amends involves action. Our Higher Power gives us courage to change the things we can. He gives us the confidence to get involved in new activities, to be more assertive, to make new friends, to go back to school, to change jobs. By abstaining from the type of eating that paralyzed us, we have strength and energy to do new things. One step at a time, we are led into action. Not to move according to the direction of God as we understand Him is to fall backwards and stagnate. Each positive action we take strengthens our recovery. Direct my actions, Lord.

The Language of Letting Go March 24 Appreciating Ourselves We are the greatest things that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier.... Codependent No More It is time to stop this nonsense of running around picking on ourselves. We may have walked through much of our life apologizing for ourselves either directly or indirectly feeling less valuable than others, believing that they know better than we do, and believing that somehow others are meant to be here and we are not. We have a right to be here. We have a right to be ourselves. We are here. There is a purpose, a reason, and an intention for our life. We do not have to apologize for being here or being who we are. We are good enough, and deserving. Others do not have our magic. We have our magic. It is in us. It doesn’t matter what we’ve done in our past. We all have a past, woven with mistakes, successes, and learning experiences. We have a right to our past. It is ours. It has worked to shape and form us. As we progress on this journey, we shall see how each of our experiences will be turned around and used for good. We have already spent too much time being ashamed, being apologetic, and doubting the beauty of ourselves. Be done with it. Let it go. It is an unnecessary burden. Others have rights, but so do we. We are neither less than nor more than. We are equal. We are who we are. That is whom we were created and intended to be. That, my friend, is a wonderful gift. God, help me own my power to love and appreciate myself. Help me give myself validity instead of looking to others to do that.