Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

So glad you're here! You'll find insights about improving your relationships with yourself, your partner, and others in your life here. And, I share great tips, memes, and videos that can help you improve your journey. (Already know you want to be in my private FB group so you can talk about your life and ask your questions? Send me a private message with your email address, and a note about why you want to join the group.) If you are living with, leaving, or trying to distan...ce yourself from a toxic person, or a relentlessly difficult person--I call them Hijackals--you're invited to ask your questions, learn, grow, find strategies, and join in the conversation safely away from Facebook in my Optimize Circles. When you join there, you also receive my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy self-study course by email over your first 47 days in the Circle. ForRelationshipHelp.com/Circles (P.S. On Facebook, a closed group means only other people in the group can see what you write, not your friends or theirs! It's a safe place to talk about difficult things. Even the name of the group doesn't give away what it is about! If you want further privacy and safety, join the Optimize Circles.)

Wondering why your relationship always seems a bit off? Why you cannot get the emotional intimacy you crave? The Attachment Style you adopted as a result of your early life experiences plays a big part in how you create and relate with others. Learn more about this important component in today's episode! https://shows.acast.com//how-differences-in-attachment-aff

NEW EPISODE! Try these strategies and tactics to change the dynamics in your relationship with a #Hijackal (a narcissist or other relentlessly difficult person) when they try to avoid responsibility or accountability, even--and especially--when they feel threatened by a potential flaw of theirs being mentioned. https://shows.acast.com//blame-shifting-recognizing-counte

You know that everything will be your fault if you're with a narcissist, a Hijackal. The nasty skill of blame-shifting is a sneaky specialty. Infuriating. Frustrating. Unfair. So, how do you respond? Join in and get some insights and tips for dealing with it. #narcissist #hijackal #blameshifting

Hijackals: those relentlessly difficult, toxic folks who make you second-guess yourself and question your sanity. Watch out! When they are "nice," they want something! Nothing but their scorn is freely given. Free gift for you at www.Hijackals.com

Thank you, Christie Lawler , for bringing your journey from recovery from toxicity and abuse to triumph and success in the consulting world. Raw, uplifting, and powerful. Great insights for people just leaving or thinking of leaving a toxic relationship, too. https://www.forrelationshiphelp.com/successful-story-steps/

And, sometimes, you can have many chapters together before that storyline ends. Whether the memories of those chapters are delightful or damaging, hopefully you learn things that enrich the next ones

Have you developed shiny object syndrome? Maybe so. We're uncovering where the balance is between seeing something through and making changes. This is going to be juicy. Join in the Transform Your Relationships conversation with Laura Rubinstein, CHt and Rhoberta Shaler, PhD https://LauraRubinstein.com https://ForRelationshipHelp.com... We deal with the tough to talk about situations in personal and professional relationships. Your sanity matters. Take on your personal power, enrich your life and create more ease.

If you're busy rationalizing, justifying, or making excuses for the bad behavior of another person, you may not notice the huge toll it is taking on your own life. Not good! This episode is not about the traits and patterns of #Hijackals. It's about the feelings you get when you're in a toxic relationship. Think about these. https://shows.acast.com//am-i-in-a-toxic-relationship-with

Because #Hijackals make you second-guess yourself, you may not want to believe that you're in a toxic relationship. The Hijackal wants you to believe everything is your fault. It's not! What do you need to recognize to allow yourself to see the toxicity is coming at you, not coming from you? Join in.

It's not this simple, of course, but it's a good starting point! How long will you wait for change that's promised but not delivered? Have you been waiting too long already? Need help? www.BeAClient.com