Quentin Hafner

Negative emotions (i.e., sadness, fear, hurt, etc.) are the bonding agents between humans. When we deliver these emotions to others, and someone on the other side can receive them well, magic happens in relationships. This bonding process starts in infancy between a mother and baby, and continues through the duration of our lives in adult romantic relationships. Relationships die an emotional death when this process disappears between people. . .... . #attachment #coaching #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #boundaries #men #women #therapyformen #leaders #Leadership #leadershipcoach #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #marriage #counseling #EQ #women #wife #wives #marriagecounseling #couplestherapy #couplestherapist #spiritualgrowth #husbandcoach See more

Choosing a relationship is choosing a set of problems. That’s not a defeatist perspective but simply a matter of fact that nobody is immune from having relationship challenges. Having a positive perspective in all of your relationships, does not mean that you can’t assert yourself and set appropriate boundaries when things are not working well. But when we analyze people in great relationships, one thing we notice in all of them is a overwhelming appreciation for the all the ...good, amidst the bad. . . . #grateful #grouptherapy #coaching #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #boundaries #men #women #therapyformen #Leadership #leadershipcoach #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #marriage #counseling #EQ #women #wife #wives #marriagecounseling #couplestherapy #couplestherapist #spiritualgrowth #husbandcoach See more

You may have noticed that people who have been vulnerable with you in your life are easy to trust. This is because oftentimes it makes us feel safe to know that the other person completely opened up to us. It makes us feel like we can really rely on them because they were willing to take these kinds of risks. If you would like more trust in your relationship, share exactly what is on your heart. . .... . #vulnerability #marriagecoaching #marriageadvice #protip #marriage #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #boundaries #men #women #therapyformen #Leadership #leadershipcoach #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #counseling #EQ #women #wife #wives #marriagecounseling #couplestherapy #couplestherapist #spiritualgrowth #husbandcoach

After taking a hiatus from leading groups is 2020 due to social distancing limitations, I’m beyond thrilled to have relaunched my leadership group.After sorting through some COVID logistical challenges and finally landing in a great space, we are up and running, and it’s never felt so good. Having been a member of several group formats myself, ranging from traditional therapy groups, to business masterminds, to different hybrids of the two, I’m acutely aware of the transfor...mational power that groups can offer, which is why I love offering the experience also to my clients. For anyone that has ever been part of a group, then you know how powerful groups can be as a tool to help us grow, enrich and maximize our lives. For anyone that is new to groups, or hasn’t ever been part of a group experience, I wanted to write this quick blog and share 5 powerful, life-changing benefits that come from being part of a group.The list of benefits is very long for being part of a group, but these are the big-5. Click the link in my bio (my blog) to read about the benefits for being part of a leadership group. . . . #groupcoaching #grouptherapy #coaching #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #boundaries #men #women #therapyformen #Leadership #leadershipcoach #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #marriage #counseling #EQ #women #wife #wives #marriagecounseling #couplestherapy #couplestherapist #spiritualgrowth #husbandcoach

Relational Empowerment vs. Personal Empowerment. They both have their place at different times in our lives and in relationships. One is not better than the other, they are just different and called upon in different circumstances.... Relational empowerment says, what’s in it for us? Personal empowerment says, what’s in it for me? Relational empowerment says, how do we both win? Personal empowerment says, how do I win? Relational empowerment says, what are our boundaries? Personal empowerment says, these are my boundaries! Relational empowerment says, what do we need? Personal empowerment says, these are my needs! Too much relational empowerment at the expense of individual needs keeps others small and minimized. Too much personal empowerment at the expense of relational needs keeps people disconnected and isolated. What do you need more of in your life? Personal Empowerment or Relational Empowerment? . . . #empowerment #coaching #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #boundaries #men #women #therapyformen #Leadership #leadershipcoach #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #marriage #counseling #EQ #women #wife #wives #marriagecounseling #couplestherapy #couplestherapist #spiritualgrowth #husbandcoach

People will say I want to have an amazing and passionate sex life but can’t do the mundane like put the dishes away. People will say... I want to build a culture of devoted employees but spend most of their time thinking about how to cut costs. People will say I want to build my wealth and retire early but can’t bother leaving a tip for the minimum wage worker. People will say I want an amazing emotional intimate relationship but spend more time criticizing than affirming. If we want to be given great things in our lives, we have to be willing to do great things with the small things. There’s no shortcuts. #marriage #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #husbandcoach #balance #boundaries #men #women #therapyformen #marriage #husbandcoach #Leadership #leadershipcoach #performance #relationships #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #counseling #attachment #EQ #healthycommunication #coaching

When’s the last time you set aside time to give someone feedback, only to praise them? #marriage #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #husbandcoach #balance #boundaries #men #women #therapyformen #marriage #husbandcoach #Leadership #leadershipcoach #performance #relationships #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #counseling #attachment #EQ #healthycommunication #coaching

It starts in infancy and continues all our lives. The sharing of struggle, pain, suffering, and negative emotion. It’s the magic bonding agent for people to feeling united and connected. You see it everywhere from soldiers in war together to mother & baby together. Without the expression and sharing of negative emotion, the attachment process is not possible..so if you want to attach, you have to get into those icky feelings.... #marriage #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #husbandcoach #balance #boundaries #men #women #therapyformen #marriage #husbandcoach #Leadership #leadershipcoach #performance #relationships #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #counseling #attachment #EQ #healthycommunication #coaching

More time for themselves. More self-care. More fun. More friends. More hobbies. More of pouring into themselves. Because it's absolutely impossible to be a good partner, if our cup is empty. Do you resonate with this?... #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #husbandcoach #balance #boundaries #men #women #husbands #therapyformen #marriage #husbandcoach #Leadership #leadershipcoach #performance #relationships #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #counseling #attachment #EQ #healthycommunication #coaching

Hey guys! Join me for a fun, FREE, 21-day marriage challenge mastermind for busy husbands starting December 1st. It will be a great way to stay connected through the stressful holiday season and send you into 2021 the right way!... The sign-up link is in the bio! I hope you can make it! #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #husbandcoach #balance #boundaries #men #women #husbands #therapyformen #marriage #husbandcoach #Leadership #leadershipcoach #performance #relationships #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #counseling #attachment #EQ #healthycommunication #coaching

Last week I was interviewed on the Where Money Meets Soul podcast and we had a really great conversation with Jen Griffith and Natasha Ganes on dealing with the emotional effects caused by the pandemic. Jen and Natasha are #1: awesome people, #2: highly successful business women, and #3: have a passion for helping busy professional's create more zen in their lives. Check out their podcast if you're looking for something new to listen to! #growing #maturity #therapy #executivecoaching #relationships #husbandcoach #balance #boundaries #men #women #husbands #therapyformen #marriage #husbandcoach #Leadership #leadershipcoach #performance #relationships #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #counseling #attachment #EQ #healthycommunication #coaching

These 5 words can change the world and all sorts of relationship difficulties. #husbands #therapy #highperformance #executivecoaching #relationships #husbandcoach #balance #boundaries #men #women #therapyformen #marriage #husbandcoach #Leadership #leadershipcoach #performance #relationships #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #counseling #attachment #EQ #healthycommunication #coaching

When we take a look around, particularly on social media, we see so much division. The world, and sometimes even our families, can get divided into camps of good guys and bad guys. Of course, the world is never this simple, and when we don’t know how to have conversations that unite, things become divided. Unfortunately, this division is taking place inside some families and business teams, which is just too sad and tragic.... Creating more unity with the people we care about is simply about engaging best practices with our ability to communicate with each other. In this short solo podcast (link in bio), I talk about an essential 3-step process to creating more unity with the people we care about. If your family or business team feels divided, take the lead by watching this video and practicing these 3 steps; my promise is that it will bring a greater sense of unity with those you care most about and put a halt to the unnecessary and challenging tension. Cheers to building unity, Quentin #growing #maturity #therapy #relationships #husbandcoach #balance #boundaries #men #women #husbands #therapyformen #marriage #husbandcoach #Leadership #leadershipcoach #performance #therapy #relationships #newportbeach #orangecounty #growth #counseling #attachment #EQ #healthycommunication #coaching #executivecoaching

Enjoying the Holidays, even if you're not together anymore...