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It can be difficult to stay connected with your partner through times of high anxiety. Try these 5 tips to regain your connection and continue to build a more meaningful relationship.

Does this tweet by Dr. Stan Tatkin sound relatable? We believe that true growth happens when our basic needs are met. #stantatkin #tatkin #emotionalresources #emotionalenergy

"Some argue that a willingness to please one’s partner and experiment with sexual play that interests them is just as important as shared or complementary sexual interests. Some individuals may have naturally lower libidos but if they are willing to engage in sexual intercourse more often than they would typically desire to they may have sexual compatibility with partners whose libidos are higher. - From Kinkly.com

Gender fluidity refers to an individual's expression of both male and female gender qualities and identities without distinction. An individual who feels like a female one day and a male the next. They do not feel the need to fulfill any cultural norms or expectations with regards to male/female gender expression. These individuals view gender as a spectrum rather than as a strict male-female binary. - From Kinkly.com #kinkly #genderfluidity #genderidentity #sextherapy #sextherapist

In order to reach a healthy resolution to a disagreement with your partner, both parties must be aware of any hurt feelings that need healing before moving forward. Do you have experience with a situation like the one described in Dr. Stan Tatkin’s tweet? #conflictresolution #relationshipgoals #marriagegoals #couplescounseling #sextherapy #stantatkin #drstantatkin

It may seem simple, but these 3 tips can help you retain passion in your relationship. Simple daily practices can add up to a greater, more fulfilling life together with your partner. #passion #relationshipgoals #sextherapy #sextherapist

Healthy relationships thrive in an environment full of support, love, and a team-centered spirit. Codependency describes a relationship in which there is an excessive amount of emotional or psychological reliance on a partner. The four points above are signs that you may be in a codependent relationship. #codependency #codependentrelationships #healthyrelationship #relationshipgoals #marriagegoals #sextherapy #couplescounseling #sextherapist

While the sex positive movement encourages sexual freedom, it also centers around being safe while doing so. Overall, the sex positive movement views sexuality - in all its many facets - as a positive part of being human rather than something to be ashamed of. -from Kinkly.com #sexpositive #sexualfreedom #sextherapy #consent #relationshipgoals #marriagegoals #new #sextoy #partner #orgasm #bdsm

Being a new parent can put a major strain on your relationship. These 4 tips can help you and your partner stay connected, feel appreciated, and grow together into parenthood. #newparents #parenting

Emily Nagoski believes that everyone deserves to be happy inside the body they have, and we are inclined to agree. Happiness is not a concept set aside for specific types of people - we all have the right to happiness and joy, regardless of your body type. #happiness #joy #healing #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #bodypositive #bodylove #selflove #selfcare #comeasyourare #nagoski #emilynagoski #quote #quoteoftheday

Does this quote from Emily Nagoski ring true in your experience? #quoteoftheday #emilynagoski

Correction: In a previous post we accidentally referred to Pansexual as a gender identity, when in fact it is a *sexual* identity. We apologize for the typo in our original post. The term pansexual initially arose in psychoanalytic circles among people who believed that sexual energy plays a part in all human interaction, and is the primary source of energy in our lives. It has since been adopted by some people as a more inclusive term than bisexual. -From Kinkly.com

Great information! The answer is yes so let’s normalize this. If your child is doing this, use it as an educational opportunity about cleanliness, private time (do it in the bathroom or your room), consent, etc.

Very useful skill!

Someone wants their Sexual History taken.. #buehlerinstitute #therapycats #sextherapy #sexpositive

This is a lot of my work

Introducing my Let's Get Back To Us couples support group! For couples looking to focus on their relationship and receive support from others. Also, this group is a more affordable option than private couple sessions. As always, LGBTQIA+ friendly.

Get a feel for me and where I do my work!

One of the biggest lessons for couples therapy! Now let’s substitute the word anger with hurt, fear, guilt or shame and we will get somewhere.

Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship: Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved. Date nights are a must. ... Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in. Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important. Learn each others love language. We all don’t perceive love the same way. Go to bed mad sometimes. Don’t force a resolution. Sleeping on it does help. When you get into a fight, don’t just say I’m sorry. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time. It will get boring sometimes. Every couple goes through the boring stage. It’s normal. It will fade. This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in. Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa. It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health. It’s okay to go to couples counselling. It helps. It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing. Talk about money. Talk about your financial goals. Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa. Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other. Ask questions like What do you need to see more of from me? How can we understand each other better? And most importantly, be kind to each other. Love each other. Fight for each other. Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride. But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it.

This is a great way to think about sex addiction. There is also something to be said about the chemicals released during sex and intimacy in general that causes us to feel positive and bond with a person.

This is why therapy works even if all you do is talk about nothing.

I’ve never been ok with the good vibes only talk. I get what they are going for but we don’t need anymore shaming of feelings

Working on our relationships is a process and we aren't required to be perfect. Small efforts each day matter!

Very important for individuals and couples

I got the opportunity to be a guest on Between Two Clinicians with Talia Bombola. Check it out and share!!! Warning we talk about some sexy stuff!