Jodi Stanley Therapy

Navigating ourselves in relationships is complex. Being human means that we can expect to let ourselves and the people closest to us down from time to time. This can look like losing patience, communicating from a space of frustration, or being preoccupied and missing or shutting down attempts by our loved ones for connection. Our work is to develop a loving awareness of ourselves as human, imperfect, and yet still worthy; while also holding ourselves responsible and owning ...the moments when we miss it in our relationships. This looks like slowing down, being present, and noticing the emotional experiences we are feeling on the inside, as well as paying attention and being sensitive to the emotional experiences of our loved ones. Our challenge is not to create perfection but to catch moments of imperfection, turning emotional injury into connection and healing. This is the process of repair. To become an observer, to look and pay attention, and to own what needs to be owned, for ourselves and in our relationships. To repair sounds like empathy, care, concern, validation, and authentic emotional presence - I can imagine that didn’t feel good for you when I (was mad/left/wasn’t there for you); How did that feel?; I’m sorry, I care for you and didn’t mean to make you feel that way. Can we try that again? Repair works to undo aloneness in the face of overwhelming emotion - to be with a trusted other processing our feelings and calming the nervous system. It represents an opportunity to be kind to ourselves and to take care of the ones who mean the most to us. In what ways do you want to see yourself grow in developing compassion and accountability through emotional repair? #sandiegomarriageandfamilytherapist #connection #attachment #couplestherapy #attachmentparenting #emotionalrepair #selflove #relationalaccountability

I had the incredible experience of immersing myself in the world of healing attachment trauma through the AEDP training in LA the past 5 days. I loved taking the time to connect with colleagues while also diving deep within myself to expand my transformational skills. Here are the most significant pieces I’m taking away from this experience: There is tremendous power in the human to human, heart to heart connection when space is created to explore & truly know our internal... landscape of emotion. We as human beings have a motivational drive wired inside us toward healing, growth, and emotional repair. We have a deep desire to be seen, known, & recognized as we strive to come into contact with parts of ourselves that are frozen. Innately our brains crave the emotional release of past hurt & pain, and are capable of being re-wired to experience relief and freedom. Do you feel constrained by past hurts or trauma? Do you long for relief to engage more presently in your daily life? #aedpimmersion #attachment #attachmenttrauma #traumahealing #sandiegotherapist #neuroplasticity @ Beverly Hills, Los Angeles

Live presently & intentionally. Make time to check in regularly with yourself and the ones that mean the most to you. By creating space and attending to our inner worlds, we deepen our sense of connection & closeness. Take a risk to be vulnerable by asking these questions, and see what you might find: How am I feeling? Where is it coming from? What am I making this mean about me? What do I long for? Do I feel seen & understood? By whom? What makes me feel loved? What makes m...e feel fulfilled? How do I want to see myself grow? How have you been feeling? What’s been on your mind? Are you worried about anything? How have you felt about us and our connection? What makes you feel loved? What do I do to disconnect us? Where do you feel most alive? What dreams do you have for our future? #sandiegotherapist #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #attachment #couplescounseling #intentionalparenting #connection #selflove

So looking forward to this exciting event with Sue Johnson! Check out the link & I hope to see you there! http://www.sandiegoeft.org/local-events/