Guide To Self, Inc.

Some harmful core beliefs... People are idiots People can’t be trusted The world is dangerous... I’m unlovable I’m a failure The world doesn’t need me for anything special. The world is dull. The world is boring. Opportunities are scarce. Tomorrow I am releasing a special episode of The Evolved Caveman in which I have a scintillating conversation with my fiancée @joreerose on Primal World Beliefs and Core Beliefs. These beliefs form the foundation upon which we build our thoughts, emotions, perceptions and actions (often with no awareness). Start to uncover your unconscious beliefs so you can CHOOSE which ones serve you and your happiness the best. Tomorrow...on the #EvolvedCaveman #podcast. #primals #corebeliefs #psych #pospsych

Happy Easter! This Easter, my hope is that men become aware of the prison in which they live. Man Box culture has created a prison for all of us where the bars ...are 1. Men should be stoic (and thus shouldn’t feel and are cut off from happiness). 2. Men should be self-reliant (and thus never ask for help even when badly needed). 3. Men don’t back down until they win (thus harming their romantic relationships as there is limited understanding of other goals beside winning in a disagreement). 4. Men avoid all things feminine (and thus fail to learn tools to be better in relationship, communication & emotional literacy). The first step is awareness. The second step is giving yourself permission to learn skills outside the man box; skills that can lead to greater success AND happiness. The third step is to stop looking for external validation for your self worth. Begin looking internally to your values. #men #evolvedcaveman #internalvalidation #happiness #husbands #fathers #socialcomparison #psychology #selfhelp

The 3rd (and final) level of core beliefs are about your Self (capitalized on purpose - because you are incredibly worthy and f*cking important simply by virtue... of the fact you are alive & breathing!). I believe that we come into this world w/ a firm understanding of our worth and then...something traumatic happens. It might be an abusive parent, a break up, getting bullied, losing a loved one, etc. We get hurt...badly. And the traumatic event changes our core beliefs about Self. One definition of trauma is not the event itself but how the event changes your internal beliefs about world and Self. At 1 point, you were a little ankle biter convinced that you were worthy of happiness, of success, and of connection. 20 years later, traumatic events have perniciously altered your beliefs (often without your consent or awareness) to something like I’m a piece of shit or I’m an idiot or Nothing ever goes my way. These are all untrue but they can FEEL true. Close your eyes. Imagine if these core beliefs were similar to mindsets, where you can become aware of them and CHOOSE to change them to positive beliefs which you KNOW serve you better. Now open your eyes. It’s true. Make a decision that you are worthy & deserving of love, success, connection and happiness. Now plaster these core beliefs everywhere - on your computer screen, bathroom mirror, silent alarms on phone, etc. And choose to believe they are true. Because they absolutely are. #happiness #corebeliefs #primals #evolvedcaveman #wellbeing #positivepsych #lifehacks #brainhacks

100th Episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast is here!!! Evolving Past The Man Box Culture Towards Greater Happiness For the 100th episode, a solo cast by Dr. Jo...hn Schinnerer on the man box culture we all grew up in, how its affected us, how it has cut us off from greater happiness, and what we can do about it. Topics covered: What is the Man Box Culture? Why should you care? What are the rules about what it means to be a man? Which insults are used to easily manipulate men? How does the Man Box damage us as men? Can you be too competitive for the health of your relationship? Is there such a thing as being too self-reliant? What emotions are we cut off from due to the Man Box? Why does it matter? What defines a typical man/caveman? What defines an evolved man/caveman? Let’s work to make the phrase a happy man more than just an oxymoron! Link below or wherever your best #podcasts are found. https://podcasts.apple.com//the-evolved-cave/id1463310003 #manbox #masculinity #men #happiness #relationships #marriage #positivevibes #positivepsychology #evolvedcaveman #drjohn

Great news! The Evolved Caveman podcast is trending at #10 in the SF Bay Area #sfbayarea !!! This episode is on meaning and how it fuels your happiness. World c...lass meaning and purpose expert - Vic Strecher. https://podcasts.apple.com//the-evolved-cavem/id1463310003 #meaning #purpose #happiness #toppodcast