Eric Elliott

Once a week, I'm highlighting a specific herb - the kinds of medicinal plants you'd want to keep around the house for yourself, your family or housemates. I'll discuss who and what the herb is good for, and how to get it, gather it, and use it. This Week's herb is Yellow Dock, the all-time digestive champ.

Trying something new. Once a week, I'm going to highlight a specific herb - the kinds of medicinal plants you'd want to keep around the house for yourself, your family or housemates. It'll discuss who and what the herb is good for, and how to get it, gather it, and use it. This Week's herb is Yarrow.... Good for pretty much everyone.

1) Remind yourself every day, It is not my fault. Make this your daily mantra. 2) Tell yourself every day: He/She is not going to see. 3) Tell yourself every day: They aren’t going to see. 4) Tell yourself every day: It is enough that I see.

KEEPING YOUR POWER Many kind hearted, gentle people seem to end up being used and/or broken by those they care about.. So we felt it may be helpful to share som...e information about narcissists, gaslighting and coercive control.. They all have something in common, none admit fault, none apologize and all deflect fault to their victims. Narcissists don't have real emotions, they know how to tell people what they want to hear, and they mirror other people's emotions, but don't have their own true emotions. Gaslighters are full of great ideas but don't personally want to invest. They have a lot of excuses to excuse themselves from having to go outside their own comfort zones and always try to have you go to them. And if there's descent in the relationship, like the narcissist, they will twist the story to anyone who will listen, that you are the crazy one, the dramatic one, and because they are great story tellers they manage to separate you from your family and friends, which works well when they begin to twist their story, they point out that people just have to look, even their own family and friends don't have anything to do with them.. A coercive controller, listens intently to everything you say, they come across as caring people, who are attentive, then they begin to use all the information you've shared with them, to tear you down. They deflect blame, if they hear something they don't like, they will pick away at you, call you names that they know have hurt you in the past, use past relationships as a weapon against you, saying its no wonder your ex did what they did, or said what they said, all of this diminishes your own self worth. These actions make you feel like maybe, everything that has gone wrong in the past and now, is your fault. All of these people use emotional abuse, financial abuse and deflect blame. Rarely, will any of these people apologize, they walk away and when they return, they act like nothing happened, if you want to talk about it, they say; you're over reacting, making something out of nothing or tell you, you imagined it and that it never happened. They will always make themselves the victim, talk about how you hurt them, even when you have done nothing wrong.. All these things are done over a period of time, you were being groomed over time, to doubt your own thoughts and words. Until you are a shell of your former self. They always do what they want to do, but always need to be in control of what you're doing, if they allow you to do your own thing at all.. So what we hope here, is that you become aware of these kinds of behaviours and stop them before they cause you harm. Your thoughts matter, what you do matters, you matter, you aren't responsible for other people, how others treat you, is a reflection of them, not you. No matter who these people are in your life, become familiar with these behaviours, so that you don't take on their issues. We hope that you can recognize some of these behaviours and can begin to rebuild your own self worth, and hold onto to your power.. People who truly care about you, uplift you, not belittle you, support you, not turn against you and take responsibility for their own actions, not blame you for their mistakes.. As hard as it may feel, it is better to stand empowered, alone, than diminished and surrounded by people who don't care about you! Know that you will soon find yourself surrounded by other kind hearted caring people like yourself, it all starts with being aware of those who are self serving and have no concerns of manipulating others for their own advancement... In loves healing light may you all be empowered to love the life you live... A'ho All my relations Ala'Sit'Pit

A single person can’t fix all the ills on the earth (unless you’re some kind of saint with super powers I haven’t heard of yet). But we can all take action, whether that means using our voices (and/or pens) to speak out for justice, volunteering for various causes, supporting clean energy, or simply being there for friends and family. Every day, no matter how much pain we may be in, we can still do at least one small thing to help. There’s power in not just doing this but in simply knowing it.

Message from White Eagle, Hopi indigenous on 03/16/2020: This moment humanity is going through can now be seen as a portal and as a hole. The decision to fal...l into the hole or go through the portal is up to you. If they repent of the problem and consume the news 24 hours a day, with little energy, nervous all the time, with pessimism, they will fall into the hole. But if you take this opportunity to look at yourself, rethink life and death, take care of yourself and others, you will cross the portal. Take care of your home, take care of your body. Connect with the middle body of your spiritual House. Connect to the egregor of your spiritual home. Body, house, medium body, spiritual house, all this is synonymous, that is to say the same. When you are taking care of one, you are taking care of everything else. Do not lose the spiritual dimension of this crisis, have the aspect of the eagle, which from above, sees the whole, sees more widely. There is a social demand in this crisis, but there is also a spiritual demand. The two go hand in hand. Without the social dimension, we fall into fanaticism. But without the spiritual dimension, we fall into pessimism and lack of meaning. You were prepared to go through this crisis. Take your toolbox and use all the tools at your disposal. Learn about resistance with indigenous and African peoples: we have always been and continue to be exterminated. But we still haven't stopped singing, dancing, lighting a fire and having fun. Don't feel guilty about being happy during this difficult time. You don't help at all by being sad and without energy. It helps if good things emanate from the Universe now. It is through joy that one resists. Also, when the storm passes, you will be very important in the reconstruction of this new world. You need to be well and strong. And, for that, there is no other way than to maintain a beautiful, happy and bright vibration. This has nothing to do with alienation. This is a resistance strategy. In shamanism, there is a rite of passage called the quest for vision. You spend a few days alone in the forest, without water, without food, without protection. When you go through this portal, you get a new vision of the world, because you have faced your fears, your difficulties ... This is what is asked of you. Let them take advantage of this time to perform their vision seeking rituals. What world do you want to build for yourself? For now, this is what you can do: serenity in the storm. Calm down and pray. Everyday. Establish a routine to meet the sacred every day. Good things emanate, what you emanate now is the most important thing. And sing, dance, resist through art, joy, faith and love. "Resiste -Renace See more

While this article speaks to Narcissism, FOG is a common trait in all forms of abuse. It goes on after the abuse ends. For someone affected by an abusive relationship, having a grip on the effects of FOG can really be a big help in getting their life, their self-esteem, and faith in the world back.

Cure: To remedy, correct, fix, remove, restore to health. Heal: To become whole (From the same Greek word (hagios or hagnos) as holy). "In curing, we are trying to get somewhere, we are looking for answers. In curing, our efforts are specifically designed to make something happen. ... In healing, we live questions instead of answers. We hang out in the unknown. We trust the emergence of whatever will be. We trust the insight will come. The challenge is not the choice between one and the other. We need both. The lesson I learned is never to be afraid to take people into the heart of their pain, because at the heart of their pain is the healing, and at the heart of the healing is the pain and the joy" Dr. Paul Epstein

I would add, it isn't much help to a person who could really use it to ask how you can help. They aren't going to know and they don't really have the time or energy to figure it out. Sometimes simple things like just dropping by and picking up and doing their laundry or taking their kids on an outing can be huge.

It’s not at all unlikely that you know someone who is in an emotional abusive relationship and that you are completely unaware it’s going on. This is a great article on how to pick up on subtle signs that someone (maybe even you) are going though something that is causing damage. And if you do think you know someone being subjected to this sort of behavior, a simple thing you can do, that really helps, is to just be there a little more often and with a little more TLC. It goes a long way.

I wished I had read this a few years ago. I had been/am struggling with good ways of working through the psycho-spiritual loss I see in Post-Traumatic Stress. Some advice I came upon early in my herbal career was to always to remember to look at what's RIGHT with my client. In post-traumatic stress, that can be kind of tough sometimes. You can see the growth they've made over time, but there's always that demon unimaginable, unspeakable event you've got to navigate around.... My friends and colleagues who like shamanism will often speaking of "working in the light." And I've always pushed back on that notion. The fear, the pain, the shattered assumption of fairness and self-value aren't found in the light. If you want to get to that, you gonna have to go visit those dark, scary places. It's also why I have such trouble with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Retraining your memory to recall the compassionate care you received after the event is has a place. I actually do use herbs to do that. But equally, or more important, is just holding space and let them struggle with their new reality in a safe place. To not try to change it, to fix it, to make it feel better, but to just let them process what they feel. I've found ways to help clients through that struggle - ritual being one I try to use, but there was never a way to see into the damage itself and see what growth occurred as a result of the traumatic event. That I never really had a way to do, Being able to see what is RIGHT about how they've worked through the event wasn't in my toolkit. This does that very nicely. It's a really good read if your involved in psychological trauma or post-traumatic stress as a loved one, a victim, or a practitioner.

I'm not sure that I would agree that this is a symptom of anxiety. This IMHO is a symptom of psychological trauma