Ray Doktor, Psy. D.

There's so much magic in nature we're still learning about:)

Everything can wait but love! Many of us stack emails, projects, laundry, and other tasks in front of simplicity, flow, love, and the path of least resistance. At our core beingness and humanness, what we really want to experience is love and happiness. There are times I’m on the computer, phone, or project, and my son just wants to love me up and I say, Hold on.... Like many of us, I’ve been programmed to keep my eyes on the outcome and idea that something different in this NOW moment will bring me JOY, HAPPINESS, EASE, AND COMFORT when it is all inside and in front of me. And many of us will say to our kid, partner, or whomever, Will you just give me a moment, so I can work and/or finish this thing. But often when we finish this thing, JOY & HAPPINESS doesn’t show up. We’ve missed it. I often talk about third dimensional reality which has to do with our physical bodies, linear conversations, the material world, and physical actions and ideas we think will make our lives better. Children operate and imagine more in the spiritual realm (fifth dimensional reality). Because they’re younger, not jaded, or brainwashed to acquiesce to our third dimensional social norms to effort themselves to feel good, experiencing JOY is easier for them. Adults will put together a third dimensional obstacle course (lose weight, go to college, become popular, be respected) to achieve what they already did when they were born. JOY exists now. It is always here. And there’s an abundance of it when we’re connected to source (fifth dimensional reality). Our children come forth to help us remember

There is an old story about a farmer who finds a pumpkin that has just started to develop. To protect the little pumpkin against the natural elements of life, he puts the pumpkin into a jug. Then he carries on with life and forgets about the pumpkin. When harvest time comes, the pumpkin has grown only as large as the jug. The jug that once protected it, eventually limits its growth. *What are you hiding?... *What are you not expressing? *What are you not taking responsibility for? *And what can I do to help you come out of your little jug? To help you elicit confidence in yourself, just remember that one life-changing experience that catapulted you into knowing yourself more today.

Notice everything in your environment as a gift to you. Receive it as a gift: stranger smiling at you, person letting you go first at the stop sign, person complimenting your clothes, receiving a hug. Also notice acts of kindness and giving: a man walking with his elderly mother. And then notice yourself, your heart, and all that you have and deserve.

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