Brendan Hall: The Love Therapist

Self Compassion (Part I) You must be vigilant to rewire and reprogram the brain after years of indoctrination around guilt and shame ... and criticized and being schooled in all the ways that we are not OK ... or not good... We bought into the lies. And of course we did, we were children. But now we’re adults, we have a choice! We have a choice in every given moment whether to supply ourselves with nourishing love and acceptance Or keep the same old tape playing. What would you like to choose today? #selfcompassion #selflove #selfacceptance #selfawareness #love #truth #selfcare #nonshamingheart #shameless #therapy #lovetherapy

Cultivating A Non-Shaming Heart (Part II) We bought into the lies about us when we were children.... But now we’re adults, we have a choice! We have a choice in every given moment whether to supply ourselves with nourishing love and acceptance Or keep the same old tape playing. What would you like to choose today? #selfcompassion #selflove #selfacceptance #selfawareness #love #truth #selfcare #nonshamingheart #shameless #therapy #lovetherapy

FYI this weekend, music and ritual to celebrate and honor the winter solstice! https://wintersolsticefest.com

I just found this morning gratitude meditation again through my insight timer app and fell in love with it all over again. Amazing way to start the day. Enjoy today or first thing tomorrow morning

The holidays can bring up a lot for us. A lot of mixed feelings, difficult histories, triggers with family and friends, and this year carries all of that and more. Wherever you are is OK. Let your breath be the beginning of transforming this moment.... Let a hand to your heart be the beginning of caring connection... and acceptance for yourself and what’s happening. Let what you’re reading right now be a reminder that you are loved and that there is appreciation for you - everything that you do, everything that you are: A beautiful, sacred, worthy, luminous being of light. I’m so glad you’re here on this planet and that the world gets to experience your love, your creativity and your impact. #loveyou #appreciateyou #thankyou #thanksgiving #itsokaynottobeokay #loveandacceptance #thankfulforyou

Today... return to your practice. Return to that which helps you reset, take care of yourself, navigate challenges, get rested, get clearheaded, be more available and present for others, etc. pick a time, pick a moment and get reacquainted with yourself. You deserve it. It’s a practice because we keep returning back to it, we never get it right and we’re never done. ... Let me know how it goes. #practice #return #selfcare #selflove #reconnect #reset #getquiet #resilience #covid_19

Covid Stages (aka: A Transformational Journey) These do not play out in linear order, you may skip around repeat, etc. Where are you on the scale right now?... What stages or phases would you add? Anywhere or everywhere is an OK place to be. Keep breathing sweet one... #covid #covid_19 #stagesofgrief #resilience #transformation #thejourney #spiritualawakening

Is there someone you love you need to reach out to? Why is it so hard to reach out when we’re triggered? Often we move into protective and defensive stances (anger and ego) Which block our love, empathy and ability to reach out. ... We sit back. We mean mug. We freeze. We think I’m not gonna be the first one to reach out But that’s exactly what we need to do sometimes. Extend the olive branch Be the bigger person Tap into our higher self #reachingout #repair #reach #love #couples #friends #thework

Whatever your sexuality or sexual orientation, you are perfect exactly as you are. I came out when I was 12 as bisexual and it was one of the scariest and most courageous things I’ve ever done. And over the next three years I came out slowly and discovered that I was actually queer (gay at the time) All I wanted was to connect with someone and not feel so alone, realizing that I was non-normative. I had no idea at the time what a gift it is to be queer. ... I know not everyone has the privilege or safety to come out like I did. The journey of self discovery and self-love takes compassion, takes time, takes support, takes community... Cultivating a non-shaming heart and stepping into our full authentic desire, love and turn on is such a beautiful thing. Reach out if you or someone you love could use help in connecting with someone, a group or a space to explore more #nationalcomingoutday #comingoutday #lgbt #queer #loveislove #itgetsbetter

11/11, 11:11 AM 1 Awareness This card is one of the key reminders that you already possess all of the tools to guide and direct you in your life. Whether it is wisdom, intuition, psychic skill, creativity, self motivation, love, willpower, physical ability, or just pure courage, they are all part of you. Once you learn to tap into and use them, you will be amazed by the power and effect they can have. You have the ability to allow the Universe to work in partnership with ...you. Together, you can manifest change, whatever the desire may be, and bring about a positive outcome. This card represents your ability to create your own reality to set ideas into motion and watch them grow. This card is often drawn when you are ready to switch direction, start a new project, or change careers. Now is the time to use positive thoughts, visualizations, and affirmations as you veer away from negativity. Knowledge is power and can lead to success. By having faith, keeping your willpower strong and directed, and by tapping into the tools that you possess as well as calling on the magic from the Universe you can accomplish anything and everything you set out to do. #tarot #awareness #Ace #youaretheanswer #OneStepAtATime #youcreateyourownreality #1111 @johnholland The psychic oracle deck 11:11 Awakening Code

Oh Rumi, how I love thee. Thank you for the powerful reminder That love transforms. It’s so fucking hard sometimes. ... Our lower selves revel in the pleasure of a grudge of hatred or raging ... or judging it’s so much easier than seeing what a mirror everyone is for us. That what we detest in others is a fragment of our wholeness. May love transmute your heart in any of it distressed places or relationships today #rumi #lovetranscends #loveismedicine #love #poetry #lovepoems

Most People get caught projecting and believing that their perceptions are true. Conflicts arise when we don’t slow down to question our views or the way we are seeing someone or a situation. Why don’t we get curious? Because when our bodies and brains are triggered, we are operating out of the amygdala, out of the fight, flight, freeze or fawn response ... We are reacting from cortisol and adrenaline And that leaves us cut off from the neo cortex-from the higher level thinking in our brain. That place, Which we are cut off from, is the place that we can embrace complexity. Are you or have you been in a conflict with somebody where it felt very black-and-white? Are you willing to slow down and hold the idea that possibly you don’t know the full truth? Are you open to checking out your stories, your assumptions? I wonder what you’d find out... #checkyourassumptions #truth #communicationskills #lovetherapy #stories

Happy Fall Equinox friends The Autumn Equinox is a meaningful time of year to honor the harvest. This could be a literal harvest, or the intentions and efforts on your own life path. Ancient and Indigenous cultures recognized earth-based wisdom and understood that the four focal points of the year: the Winter Solstice, Spring Equinox, Summer Solstice, and Autumn Equinox; illuminated stages of an inner spiritual journey a spiritual cycle that the individual takes within th...emselves. If you have a moment, let yourself have a ritual of gratitude as we move towards Winter and start a deep internal journey. Stepping outside and connecting with some nature or the ground under your feet Or lighting a candle and sitting in a moment of quiet can be beautiful rituals. Open your mind to the greater intelligence of nature that’s always present. Shift your consciousness from one of lack to one of prosperity and gratitude for all that supports you in this time... During fall equinox we have an opportunity to go within and empty out space, composting our old ideas and using the energy they hold to make new and fertile soil for new creativity and matured visions. #fallequinox #autumn #innerjourney #ritual #spiritualawakening #deepwork

Cyndi Lauper... kills me every time. We all get lost, we get stuck sometimes, Sometimes it’s about receiving, it’s about remembering that were in each others care. Pass on this message today to those you care about. We need each other We’re not meant to do this life alone. ... I see you! Love you! #timeaftertime #care #support #reachout #infinitelove #alwaysremember

I love you... but how do YOU like to be loved? Have you heard of the 5 Love Languages? I tried to find a chart that partners or singles could use, but will have to create one at some point. Learn more about the ones that are meaningful to you... and the ones you love most in your life. We often show love and care the ways WE would like to receive it - so knowing others Love Languages helps us express love in powerful ways based off of who we're directing it too. ...Enjoy! #the5lovelanguages #LoveLanguages #ExpressingLove #Love #RelationshipWork See more

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Sometimes I go inside and I can feel a young part of me upset, overwhelmed or frightened. Sometimes he’s seven and sometimes he’s four... and sometimes he’s a baby. Often he likes physical affection and verbal reassurance-or just to be held. Do you have a relationship with your inner child? When triggered, we often have an unconscious younger part of us that is running the show. They’re controlling our behaviors, they’re reactive, acting out or flooding our nervous system ... They do everything they can to keep control, to keep us safe - many understandable but primitive defenses and responses. Cultivating a relationship with your inner child empowers you and gives you access to more choices in a given moment (when triggered) With practice, you can learn to have a conversation with this part of you, soothe and comfort and shift the intensity of what’s happening inside... and let your healthy adult self take over the steering wheel. I’m giving a huge hug virtually to your inner child today. May they always know they are loved, cherished and welcome.

Know that you’re exactly where you’re meant to be, even though you may not be where you thought you would . . . My mom gave me poignant advice when I was young. She said, I was so anxious about achieving my goals when I was younger. If I could’ve had a crystal ball to tell me ‘this is when you’ll get married, this is when you’ll have children, this is when you’ll land in a beautiful house, this is when you’ll feel fulfilled in your career then I could’ve relaxed, play and e...njoyed the journey What she was saying was TRUST Enjoy the journey as if YOU KNOW it’s all gonna work out. Because it all works out anyway darling. #trust #trusttheprocess #trustthepath #surrender #faith #letgo #life

Date Night Movie Rec: Saving Capitalism Whether with your sweetie, a new date or friends, a new app called 'Watch With Friends' makes it easy to remotely watch Netflix shows with others at the same time from the comfort of your home. There's a chat option too or you can keep the phone on to connect and discuss. I'm not promoting capitalism, however, I become very moved and inspired by Robert Reich's story, his intelligence, concise articulation, passion and heart for changing... this country and our government and economic system to better serve ALL it's citizens. Also, the ending is uplifting. Let me know your thoughts if you've seen it. xo See more

What do you think contributes successful relationship? Do you have a top two or three elements you think are most important? A new study out of London concludes that how we build a partnership together is the most important factor in relationship satisfaction. Thus, how we treat each other, how we work as a team, our ability to prioritize and protect and comfort our sweetie ... And what I would name as a crucial component is picking a partner who is willing to grow and evolve with you. It’s very related to the findings, somebody who wants to co-create and improve the dynamic demonstrates infinite potential #relationships #couple #couples #datingadvice #lovetherapy #skillshare https://www.cnn.com//what-makes-a-relationship-/index.html