Bonnie Kane, Psy.D.

All life is pressure. It’s how we respond to it that’s the major thing. I want to talk to my therapist for the rest of my life. For self-improvement it’s fantastic. And I like that I have the same therapist I’ve had for years. I don’t have to go through my history. Like you know when you start over with a new therapist? Ay-yai-yai. Billie Jean King

So true right!?

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Doing the hard work in therapy is a brave act. Be proud and let’s all continue our part in ending the stigma. https://medium.com//5-reasons-im-glad-i-got-the-fuck-over-

As a lot of you know, I recently made a cross-country move to Californiaat my advanced age (hehe). It was a big deal and it was scary. It’s yet to be determined how it will turn out but it all feels good so far. I am currently doing teletherapy only and have a new website: http://Drbonniekane.com. Please schedule yourselves directly on the site or contact me for an appointment. Miss you all.

Has anyone else hit the wall? Excellent article about living with the "not knowing."

Hi Everyone. Sorry I haven’t posted in a while. I’m adjusting to the new normal just as all of you are. I wanted to let you know that I have temporarily transferred my work to a telemental health practice. Clients can now choose their own convenient location for therapy with me. I’m using secure, state of the art equipment and HIPAA compliant tools. Some of you might find that you want to continue therapy in this manner and if not.. I look forward to connecting with you in ...person sometime in the near future. Please feel free to PM me if you would like to set up an appointment. Hang in. We will get through this.

Every day we see meme after meme about being positive, being grateful, "Live Laugh Love." That may look good on a Pottery Barn driftwood sign, but when you're having a down day it just makes you feel bad about yourself. We do have much to be grateful forbut at the same time we have to feel our emotions, to cry if we need to. Then substantive healing can come from going through the pain.

Do you ever catch yourself thinking "I'm too old to do that or the best years of my life are behind me?" It's not true. When I turned 50 a good friend of mine said to me "What if the second half of your life is the best half?" We should all vow to make that happen. Great article below.

I couldn’t agree more.

There is no timeline for grief; everybody grieves at their own pace. If you know someone who is grieving, it's hard to know the right thing to say. Instead of suggesting to them, even subtly, that "They should be over it by now"sometimes all you have to do is listen. Sometimes grieving people just want to talk.. Thank you Christine Miller Bandoni for sharing this article.

Has anyone out there tried meditation? Its reported to be great for stress and mental health. I’ve been giving it an attempt but it’s not easy. Jon Kabat-Zin says From the Buddhist perspective, our ordinary waking state of consciousness is severely limited. It resembles an extended dream rather than wakefulness. Meditation helps us wake up from this sleep of automaticity and unconsciousness. You don’t have to be a Buddhist or a yogi. In fact, the word Buddha simply means one who has awakened to his or her own true nature.

Have you ever heard the term Blue Monday? It's the name given to the third Monday in January claimed to be the most depressing day of the year. (mainly for those of us in the Northern Hemisphere). This year its the 21st. Thought this article could help us get a jump on it.

Just had a birthday (Ugh) but found a positive insight discovered by Abigail Fagan of Psychology Today. Self-Esteem can vary from person to person but overall it follows a positive trajectory with SE peaking at age 60. So hey! something to look forward to.